Athiests Could you Marry a religious person? Relgious people could you marry an athiest?

Question

Luckily my gf sits on the same side of the fence as me. Many of us have strong opinions on these issues, so answer the question!

Personally I don't even have any friends that believe in God.

Oh and if you don't believe in marriage insert "spend the rest of your lives with"

religious - belief in god/ higher power
any form you want to give and to whatever extent they are religious.

Answer 1

I'm not religious and I'm not an atheist.

To me, whether it's religion, political issues, or other hot button issues... when it comes to having a relationship I don't have to agree with everything the person I love thinks or believes... I just have to be able to respect it. And, I expect the same in return.

If I loved a man and had a good relationship, then I would marry him and accept him, even if that means we don't agree on some things.

Answer 2

I would say you are sitting on the side of the fence that does not believe in God.

But there are a few points here that need clarification. Dont you believe in religion as it exists now, or the thought that there cannot be a superpower, that was in a way responsible for the things as they are. i accept the thought that says, if God made everything, he has by doing that made himself obsolete... you see... he cannot change any of the physical laws, or the physics of things.

but that apart... many of the ideals by which you live have traces of some religion you might have come in contact with... i mean you do not go about marrying 3 girls or go about cheating, stealing , rapping... you see someone said that these were wrong and that someone is some form of holy writing... for what is to stop a strong man from taking advantage of the weak as is the custom in the animal world.

so that said, it is also a point to consider which country you are living in and what financial position you actually posses to profess that you are not believing in god... for hope and belief comes to those that are truly desperate. like those in the developing countries.

and lastly, nowadays everyone know that religions are flawed, but but they are a neccessary evil, as they are very much intertwined with the culture of the land. so if you did not have christmas, or easter, or diwali or ramadan, life will lose a little bit of the fesitivity ...

Answer 3

I am an avowed athiest. My wife was raised Lutherian, but is not devout. We were together for 7 years before we made the decision to take what was already common law marriage and turn it into a secular one.

We did not do it in a church, nor with any of our families present. In addition to the cost and effort, we felt that having a family wedding might put pressure to having a non-secular ceremony.

Instead, we went to Hawaii, got our liscence from the local Justice of the Peace, and were married on the beach by the same local priest who blesses the planes for the local airport.

We don't go to church. We do attend family functions which are held in churches, and we do not disparage anyones religious beliefs. My wife is free to have her own beliefs, as I trust her to allow me mine.

Answer 4

Define 'religious'...,

My wife is a nominal Muslim. But she's hardly orthodox about it.

In my opinion, the only place where compatibility is a real issue is in exclusive theistic beliefs (wherein non-believers go to hell by virtue of their being non-believers). I would not want to be married to a person who I believed was going to hell, and I would not want to be married to a person who believed I was going to hell. Sooner or later, it seems to me that pressure is likely to build and, out of concern, one partner will start to 'convert' the other.

My wife kinda does believe in heaven and hell - or at least divine retribution (her beliefs are slowly evolving with time, however) but she believes in a God who looks at actions, not beliefs. She beleives in a compassionate God that judges people on how they have lived their lives, not which 'team' they play on.

As this is a significant element of the so-called 'Atheist's Wager' anyway, it's quite compatible with my humanistic beliefs. As for me, the same is true. I clearly don't believe that anyone's beliefs effect where they go after they die, so for me her theism is just a small aspect of her personality.

The important thing is that we love each other. Love beats any tired old theological argument any day!

Take care.

Answer 5

As a Christian, I couldn't marry someone who had radically different views. I have been married for 15 years and I think that being able to discuss deep issues together like your spiritual journeys, etc. are essential and if your other half doesn't believe in God, and you do, how could they even grasp your faith-sharing, etc. Plus, if you have children, and if you're serious about family unity, a family should attend church services together-- if they do at all. It creates division when they do not. (I'm not saying they have to, just that a spouse may get tired of going alone.)

Answer 6

Whether it is atheism or theism, it is the same circular movement in opposite directions, yet reaching the same destination. A person, who knows it, won't have any qualms about such marriage so long as the real point is something else as human beings. Even ones own existence doesn't last long.. but only Non-Existence! There is, therefore, merit in Co-Existence before Non-Existence! If one won't break head, it is a happy thing of understanding. ..Yes, I am glad to accept such a relation with life-long love and reciprocity.

Answer 7

I'm atheist, and I could marry a religious person. Why let a simple label keep me from marrying someone I love. Would I go to church with them? No. But if that is something that would break a marriage, then it never should have happened.

Answer 8

I'm an atheist and NO I do not get involved with religious people in any kind of relationship- acquaintance, friendship, office buddy at work, neighborly conversations, etc. There's no way I could get emotionally involved with one. How can you have a rational discussion with a person who believes what he/she had been told to believe and therefore can never question anything involving life? .
It's like smokers-- I have asthma - I will pass up a friendship with a smoker also. It just doesn't work out. Where do we hang out. I can't ride in your car, you can't smoke in mine. I can't visit your house, you're not going to come into mine and stink it up.
Too much aggravation.

Answer 9

I don't believe I could marry an antheist, or anyone that didn't have the same basic beliefs I do.
He would have to have the same viewpoints as i do on all the important and sometimes contraversial issues. It really makes for an ugly fight whenever someone I'm seeing doesn't.

Answer 10

No I could not marry or be with a female who is religious, I'd prefer to be with someone who shares the same ideas as I do and also not believe in fairy-tales and be part of a religious organization that is full of hypocrisy, double standards and corruption.