2006-07-12 20:30:11 · 15 answers · asked by snoopy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
His doctor had already confirmed that he can't have baby. I didn't know that he can't have baby when we married.
2006-07-12 20:43:01 · update #1
If this is a deal breaker and you're so willing to look at divorce this easily, then perhaps you shouldn't be married to this man. I was told I couldn't have children when I first married my husband. He didn't care... he loved ME, not whether or not I could have kids.
You need to figure out what's important to you... having children or being in love and married to this man through thick and thin, the thin being him not wanting kids. If having children is more important than your marriage, by all means, leave and find someone else.
2006-07-12 20:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by Rogue Scrapbooker 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow I have a similar problem. My husband wants children but only if it happens naturally. We have been tryinf for three years without luck. He is totally against getting any help or adoption. He says he can't love an adopted child like his own. I am also contemplating divorce because I am afraid that I will resent my husband in the future. I am going to counceling for help. Maybe that could help you too. Be aware though that your husband will probably not go for therapy but it may help you come to a decision. Good luck!!
2006-07-12 20:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by cam57 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow..feel the same except I am the husband...we tried and were able to conceive but could never reach term...specialist, surgeries, no avail...now it has become clear that kids are no longer in the cards for US as adoption was almost always out of the question and other options are way to costly for us...but I still want...and resent friends and such for their kids and simple easy pregnancies...people have said it would be such a betrayal but, betraying yourself isnt just as bad or worse. I hope you find your answer...I am still working on mine and it is nice to know that I am not alone in these feelings.
2006-07-16 05:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by D v 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband need to resolve this child issue and find a common ground on it or it could lead to divorce. Maybe he doesn't feel like a whole man because he can't give you a child himself. He could be afraid or ashamed and doesn't want to adopt b/c of that. Talk to him and let him know how you feel. Hopefully you two can work it out together. You never know unless you try.
2006-07-12 22:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by drewsilla01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is having a baby yoour top priority than being with him? If so, then I guess you get a divorce and tell him the reason. If he wants to keep you then he will allow you to adopt for the both of you but then if he doesn't want to, then he will set you free.
2006-07-12 20:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by my 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there's no other way then maybe you should. He should have told you of this situation before he married you so that you could have made an educated decision. I think the courts will give you an annulment based on the fact that he didn't tell you about it. Good luck to you.
2006-07-13 03:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the only person to know.It all depends on your relationship.Do you even love him?There has to be another solution such as taking your hubby to see a psychiatrist,or going to the sperm Bank.There are so many options if you have a good marridge.If things aren't so good betwen you two just tell him hoe you feel
2006-07-12 20:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by avavu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you married your husband you made a promise to him and God. Do marriage vows mean anything to anyone anymore? You and your husband did not know this before, you are suppose to stay with your husband through good and bad times. It's not like he beats you or cheats on you right?
2006-07-12 20:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about artificial insemination? Work through your options, go to couples' counseling, and see if it's something you can compromise on. Divorce is a drastic first step.
2006-07-12 20:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide if you love your husband more than your desire to have/adopt children before you can decide whether or not to divorce him.
2006-07-12 20:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by WhyAskWhy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋