My son is around a year and a half and has started throwing fits when he doesnt get what he wants.?

Question

I've been trying to ignore it with the hope he'll learn that it doesnt work but sometimes its pretty embarasing like at a store or in public. what the best was to discourage this?

Answer 1

Practice a whole dose of patience. Make sure that he does not get what he wants if it is not good for him. When he calms down, explain in very simple manner why he cannot get what he want. Let him know that when he resorts to temper tantrums, the more he will not get anything he wants. Do not shout nor scold him. Always be cool. :)

Answer 2

He is ahead of his time. This is usually described as the terrible twos.

Best bet is to remove him from the situation. This means leaving a store when he throws a fit.

Or keep a spray bottle in your purse and spray him when he gets out of hand.

Or, my preference, a swat on his diapered butt. This may seem cruel but a few swats now will save you a lot of heart ache later. Imagine a 17 year old MAN doing the same thing? By then he will be stronger than you and a swat is not going to end the situation. What will you do then? If you think talking things through or a time out with your 18 month old baby is going to work then you deserve the TEEN years that will follow.

Answer 3

Don't ever give into him. If he throws a fit take something of his away (such as going somewhere that he wanted to go, or a toy you were going to buy him). Once you tell him that you are taking it away...DON'T TAKE IT BACK once he finishes his fit. That will just teach him that he can throw his fits and nothing will change once he stops. Set limits, such as only 4 hours of tv a day and when he throws a fit you lower that. Make sure that he knows all of his limits (yes he can understand that even at his age). When he does something wrong make him stand in the corner and count to 10 out loud and then let him out. This will help him learn his numbers and he will also learn that that is how long he is there. And whatever you do NEVER GIVE IN TO A TANTRUM!! You don't want to teach him that when he screams he gets what he want.

Answer 4

Don't ignore. That is a way of saying it's alright.
Take him away from the area, explain nicely that this is unacceptable behavior and he is restricted the next time you visit that store to go to the area.
At home, remove him from the area and explain once again that it's unacceptable.
This is an age thing also...remember you are embarking on the terrible twos and those are tough.
Be firm...remember on the 101 times of telling him no, this is unacceptable behavior, he'll get the drift, you will already of had the drift, but it takes a while for the lights to come on.
Just remember that at 16 the lights go off again for a while....

Answer 5

Children at this age are VERY easy to distract. I don't know your son but I teach Kindergarten and have been around alot of kids. You can't reason with this age. You can't really use time out. The best thing to do is quickly get his attention on something else. It always worked for me.
Make sure you don't take him to the store when he is tired or hungry. This will make these fits more likely.

Answer 6

He is entering the terrible two's. This is his way of communicating with you. If you do something he doesn't like, this is the only way he knows how to tell you.

I tend to ignore tantrums. Kids can't have their own way all the time. Try distracting him, he will forget why he's having the tantrum in the first place.

If you are in a store and he start screaming for something that you know he cannot have, take his attention to something else, like maybe start to sing nursery rhymes. Embarrassing in public I know, but desperate need call for desperate measures.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Well, first...your child is a normal toddler so that is a little good news. That being said, I think he is a little young to be spanking him, children under 2 may not associate the pain from the spanking with the misdeed. At that age they have a very short attention span and are easy to distract. Try diverting his attention away from whatever has him upset.

Answer 8

Stop giving in to his every whim. Even though he is too young for spanking but a tap on the inside of his hand may just be what he needs. Be firm and consistent. Tell him no then if he throws a fit leave him where he is. eventually he will stop. But if he is still doing it at age two. Take his little hiney and wear it out. Privately of course, we can't have you in jail.

Answer 9

With my first son, I had what I called my "Stevie Ray" belt. It was thick leather covered with heavy chrome plates. It was HEAVY. When he started into his terrible 2's (at about a year-and-a-half), I let him hold the belt one day after he had thrown a huge fit. I explained to him that, if he acted out like that in public again, He would feel the "Stevie Ray" belt on his ***. I never used it, but I would threaten to use it & sometimes just tell him to go get it. It usually worked. When we were at home, I just told him to go to his room & get it out of his system in there with the door shut. It took time, but it worked. I never had to spank him; just threaten to. After a strong door-slam & a few minutes went by, I'd go in to talk to him. Kids are pretty bright. They actually appreciate it when adults don't condescend when we speak to them (if you start when they're young). Good Luck!

Answer 10

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