Why is Gay marriage OK and Polygamy not Ok?

Question

Why is Gay marriage OK and Polygamy not Ok? isnt polygamy better because it makes more people and more families? this is NOT an anti-gay question, it is just a comparison of the two ideas. what are your opinions?

Answer 1

You examples conflict. I think people who are okay with gay marriage are also fine with polygamy.

Both are opposed by hard line Christians.

Answer 2

Yes, I'm with you on this. If you are justifying gay marriage on the basis of libertarianism (which I think is absolutely right) then it is simply hypocritical to outlaw polygamy if it is a personal free choice of all those involved in the relationship (and women should be allowed to marry many men, as much as men should be allowed to marry many women).

I think a lot of the issue with polygamy is that prevalent western cultural mores dictate that having more than one partner automatically implies that you don't care about any of them and is "cheating". Clearly, this is nonsense if all partners know and accept the situation.

And it IS possible to love someone and NOT be sexually faithful to them - just look at Shah Jahan's Taj Mahal - the entire building was built out of love for Mumtaz Mahal, but he was hardly faithful to her (I don't advocate islamic polygamy though, as that is often not entirely a free choice on the part of the women involved and the women are not equal partners).

A legally binding commitment is the issue. It all gets more complicated because of the use of the term marriage which unfortunately has religious connotations which leads to all the hoo-hah.

Answer 3

Honestly, sugar, I have no idea. I was wondering that myself. People are always hollering about how being gay is a sin in the eyes of God, and if gay marriage is allowed, polygamy will be next. Well, hell, why not? After all, the bible promotes polygamy, it's the government that doesn't.
I smell a double standard around here somewhere.....

Answer 4

To be honest, I think governments tha have allowed gay marriages still don't allow polygamy marriages because, in short, they're lazy. The system is hard enough with people divorcing right and left, add to that the complexity of having to account for when they were attached to more than one person and you've got a crisis on your hands!

Answer 5

I agree.

I see nothing wrong with Polygamy and feel that people should do whatever makes them happy in the world as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else.

And while Polygamy has some issues right now, that's mostly because those involved in it have been forced to hide from the public eye due to laws invoked to prevent them from doing what they want to do.

Gay Marriage (ok, now this is a personal one for me) is a great idea, as is Polygamy ( with one husband and many wives or with one wife and many husbands) in my opinion.

Live and let live.

Love as always,

Sebastian

Answer 6

Gay marriages is not OK. We were not created/designed to have sex with same sex partners. Polygamy is another issue because the women do not have sex with each other and I believe that this man-made law was legislated as a personal preference. If it is by design to have more than 1 wife, there wouldn't be this STIGMA and women would welcome another wife to share the load. It all depends on how the couple feel about this issue.

Answer 7

It is simply about stable family structure.

One main argument against gay marriage is that it is a harmful environment for raising kids... that gay relationships are inherently incapable of being stable (for a bunch of reasons).

People who are in favor of gay marriage disagree with that argument. BUT, many people believe that polygamous relationships are unstable/poor environments for raising children for reasons that are different than whose that are given for gay relationships.

A polygamous relationship is less stable because of the potential for abuse/neglect of the spouses, generally women. There is an imbalance of power in a polygamous relationship.

Check out the NY Times this week. There was a story about polygamy in Turkey and how problematic it is.

Answer 8

I believe this is an issue of being 'faithful'.
It is possible to be in a homosexual relationship and still be faithful to one partner, but being polygamous is basically the same as cheating.

It is an interesting topic. The major issue with cheating is that it is a breach of trust, so provided all parties are aware and acceptable, polygamy shouldn't realy be a problem. Issues do arise however, in that humans are inherantly jealous, and while they may think that they will be happy in a polygamous relationship, it usually causes problems in the long run.

Answer 9

I don't see anything wrong with polygamy as long as all the parties are educated and mature and legally of age to make their own decisions. I also think that it should be able to go BOTH ways and both men AND women have the choice to marry multiple partners.

When the sects exploit young girls and don't allow them to have any knowledge outside of the community, and when they expel young boys from the community that it is abusive. This should not be allowed under any circumstances.

Answer 10

Hell no, gay marriage is not ok. And polygamy should ONLY be allowed if everyone involved is happy and willing

Answer 11

gay marriage is NOT ok in the law of God, and in the law of people of most states. polygamy is also not ok! what happens to fidelity if you allow polygamy? it would just cause much more chaos/