A lot of people think this is a good question, but they dont have a answer. I am a born-again Christian.
My boyfriend tells me everyday im cheating, slut, and etc. Which i dont do/or are any of those things. Just remember his definition of Cheating is: Me going to Church, talking to guys, dressing up, watching tv, and dont wanna say more cause he is embarassing.
Okay so If my boyfriend cheated on me, I wouldnt go back to him... So if my boyfriend thinks im a cheater, why is he still coming back to me?
Do you think he knows Im not a cheater, or just making things up? or what u think?
Hard question.
2006-07-12 19:03:46 · 26 answers · asked by inthisskin22x 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think he is either acting out a past relationship, his parent's relationship, or he is just trying to run down your self esteem, because you are exactly right - why would he still be with you if he thought you were actually cheating on him?
In any event I think that this will prove to be an unhealthy relationship for you to be in and you might want to bail now before it gets uglier.
Peace!
2006-07-12 19:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just trying to control you by trying to make you think you are a bad person who he only puts up with out of love. Run away before he becomes more controlling and possibly abusive.
edit: The others are probably right about him cheating. There is a saying that those who accuse the other of cheating may actually be cheaters themselves. That isn't always true of coarse, just something to be cautious about.
2006-07-13 02:07:27 · answer #2 · answered by laetusatheos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your b/f is not a born again Christian, he is feeling inferior to you. He knows in his heart that you are one up on him. He is just taunting you to explode so that he can level some more accusations against you. He is coming back to you because you harbor him out of real love. He knows you love him and you won't leave him just like that. You know, the Bible says, be not unequally yoked!! That means like your case. If you marry this guy before him being born again, you will end up with endless misery. Counsel him in a loving way. Let him see the reason for your lifestyle. If he changes, well and good. Otherwise, dump him and seek the correct fellowship.
2006-07-13 06:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by sunilbernard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, he's overly possessive. Watch out, these type of people make life unbearable. He comes back because he wants to make sure you're where you say you are and no one else will have him. My first marriage was like that and I couldn't even work without him coming to my work place just to see how many guys I talked to in the course of the day. I worked with the public so it was impossible NOT to talk to guys.
2006-07-13 02:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say, but sometimes, it's the ones who accuse others that are actually doing the wrong thing themselves. It's called "projecting" (one's faults onto other people as a means of psychologically justifying their own behavior as "normal", when indeed it is not.) It's how some people deal with their own "guilt" feelings- a means of trying to get rid of them. Not a fair thing to do to others, to say the least. Very emotionally cruel. I hope that's not what's going on here- for your sake.
2006-07-13 02:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is very jealous. Does he have God in his life? You have the right to be your own person. He should accept you for who you are. Chances are if he is accusing you of being a cheater, he just may be the one doing it.
2006-07-13 02:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by GraycieLee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is a stupid question. But he knows your not cheating but he wants you to feel bad so you wont go out and be with the guys. Or maybe in the past you showed him that you went out with other guys
2006-07-15 05:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by the_cheap_rolex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading what you put into the question I think he can't accept that fact that he is wrong. Some people are like that. No I don't mean just men, women can do the same thing.
2006-07-13 02:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by ladyviciousblade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.....cheaters are the first to make accusations...so I'd keep an eye on him.
Secondly.......you're not suppose to be doing that with him or anyone else.....you did say you were a christian right???
Bad Girl!
2006-07-13 02:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by sudbury girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you doing with someone like that? If he doesn't want to share with you life as a christian then go out and find someone that will. You need someone to help you stay strong as a christian not pull you away and fill your life with frustration, jealousy and strife. God Bless. OH and well, ofcourse, keep him in prayer, take him to church with you and see where he stands, but DON'T let him control you or take charge over who you talk to, like I said, NO jealousy, NO frustration, No strife.
2006-07-13 02:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by lamp062400 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋