He fought the Battle of the Bulge and World War 11. He aslo won a siver star for going over enimy lines and stealing parts off of German Jeaps. My Question is, he is now so stubborn that he will not lett anyone take care of him. He just took his bike out, a two weeler, and fell, scraping his leg, he told us he will try again tomorrow. How is that for stubborn. What do we do?
2006-07-12 18:20:34 · 15 answers · asked by so sick of being broke 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like your father was a "gem" of a man in his day, but aging has become problematic. Your situation is very hard and especially hard because you are helpless to help an 87-year-old, stubborn man. There may be physical changes in your father's brain that have occurred because of aging that are the cause of the stubbornness. I would contact Social Services or your doctor for advice in how to cope. You need real, practical help. There are agencies that deal with this kind of situation all day long and there is also funding out there that can be found with some exploration. I wish you the best. Hang in there! Find a support group!
2006-07-12 18:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father, thinks that he is still in the age of being very manly and thinking that he still has the energy of a young man. I used to have an great-grandmother who was also that way. It is the age, it is the time in which he wants to be young again and be strong enough to take care of himself. I think that you should just tell him how you feel. Tell, him that you care about him and that you feel very uncomfortable when he is in such a mood. I hope this helps you, and good luck with your father. After all, he took care of you and loved you as a great daughter. Didn't he? Well, good bye and God Bless. :)
2006-07-13 01:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
World War 11? How long was I asleep just now? Did I fall into some sort of extremely long coma? Wow. What else has happened? Did Bush finally get out of office? No, he probably didn't. That probably explains the 9 world wars...
Hmm...
2006-07-13 01:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that your father is not accepting his age nor the limits of things that he can do at his age. He's not growing old gracefully. Just be patient with him and keep a close eye on him when at all possible. Remember with his age his mind might not be as sharp as it once was. It does seems that you love your father very much. I hope and pray everything will work out for the best.
2006-07-13 01:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the best way is not to fight with him he should be respected and not have to go thru with aggravations in his age sometimes people do things because they want you to know that they have they rigth to do whatever they want with their life even if they gonna get hurt so best thing i would say is to go along with him and wait for the right moment when he feels that he did what he wanted and then see if it's ok to stop him from whatever he is doing but you should also make it clear that you enjoying his company or you just like being in house for whatever excuse so that he doesn't feel that you here to watch him, with time he should soften once he sees that you not fighting with him he might try even to make it easy for you he knows already by now what makes you unhappy. i hope it helps and works for you. enjoy his company to the fullest. Izak
2006-07-13 01:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by izaknyc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, your father is typical. A lot of older people become very stubborn during their later years. Maybe, it's because people are always trying to tell them what to do, and they are consistently trying to prove that they are capable of taking care of themselves. The best that you can do for your father is to be there to nurse his wounds. Continue to love and appreciate him for his strength. God Bless You!
2006-07-13 01:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay by his side, i work with elderly people and they are stuck in thier own ways, thier used to taking care of themselves all those years, they don't except change very well. Oh i suggest ya'll hide the bike :)
2006-07-13 01:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by mznatural30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone that's what he wants anyway.
Just let him know that his behavior is the reason that keep you away from him.
I would waste the slightest time of my family trying to make an 80yr old man to hear me. He's old enough to know what's best for him, keep your eyes on your kids and hubby/wife they need it most.
2006-07-13 01:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by Bigfoot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him laugh and tell him he need to walk and join him take him for a walk i said to be kind to his spirit ... he must be wise and great old man if he still trying to capture his childhood life ... ask him why he trying to do that...ride get him a 3 wheel bike not a 2 wheel he be fine ..if he heathy ... let him know u care.. be careful..smile give him a hug take time out to smell thoes flowers ...get him a old dog walk with him his dog he might lighten up love him ... be glad he can out do you in living well happy he alive ..peace to all of u ...
2006-07-13 01:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by bad2the bone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a guy!! Can I have his autograph? OK. I know, but as long as he is coherent and happy, pick up the peices and let him go. I know it is hard. but you may not realize what a prividge it is to at least have him. God bless. Tell Dad HI.
2006-07-13 01:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by Golden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋