My boyfriend is Muslim from Kosovo, not a lot of diversity. I am Christian. I broke up with him the other day because he never told his parents the truth about his feelings for me, & how much he loves me. He is a good person, but inside, I hurt like hell because they don't know how good I have been to him. If he don't make himself sound successful to them, he thinks they will yell at him, so he tells them lies about his life, and it makes me look like a bad person. They don't want him to marry me because they think i am a bad person because he never told them the truth, plus I am not muslim. Also, they said I am too old, I am 27 & he is 22. I think that is an excuse. His brother talks bad things about me to his parents, & his brother lives 15 states away & doesn't even know me, & his parents live in another country. I know I love him, he tells me he loves me a lot, but I guess if he really did, no matter how hard it was, he would do whatever it takes not to loose me. Question above
2006-07-12 16:35:44 · 13 answers · asked by Tracy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good question. Hope you get your answer. 2 points!
2006-07-12 16:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it doesn't matter what your religions are, but the fact that he is ashamed of you does matter. Also he is from a different background where your parents approval is very important to him. How could he be really happy. My advice is to think really hard about a relationship that has so many things stacked against it. Sometimes love isn't enough.
2006-07-12 23:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you shouldn't even consider marriage at this stage you are too young for that yet. I think is enough pressure put on you and you shouldn't have to prove yourself to his family. If he really loves you he will ignore what his family thinks and do the right thing by you. If he gives in to his family and doesn't stand up to them it was never meant to be.
You have done all you can, There are still plenty more guys out there.
2006-07-12 23:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by cherubcheeks72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really really love him...talk to him n try to make things work out..but just keep in mind that that age n religion differences are gonna be always an issue between u guys...
or, maybe u need a real man, someone older than u, that is not afraid of telling the whole world he loves you.
good luck
2006-07-12 23:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by mini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that you hit it right when you said "if he loved me he would do anything to keep me" I say that because I was deeply in love with a girl once, I called her my one and only love when we were together, I did everything I could to keep her, I fought a hell of a fight with my family, trying to get them to respect her, I got in a huge fight with my boss because of things he said about her and how the people there treated her (we worked together) I never hesitated to stand up for her, no matter who it was or where, I did everything I could to keep her.
2006-07-12 23:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. No 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about him if he didnt care enough to tell his parents the truth then i wouldnt want him back and if hid bro is talking sh** about u then ur probably in bad with his parents already.
2006-07-12 23:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid you have already lost him. I think, in his culture, his parents' wishes come above his heart in matters of marriage. I know you are in pain, but better a fleeting pain now than a lifetime of pain in marriage with this man.
2006-07-12 23:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by lockesmith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
living a life of lies and deceit will lead to the death of your relationship anyway... I'd stop seeing him and find a man who can be 100% honest, why should he be ashamed to mention how good you are to him? I'd let go and move ahead to a better life........ remember it's just a suggestion
2006-07-12 23:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Laurie163 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel.but you answered your question already,,,if he loves you ,he would do anything to make his family loves you.but if i where you find a christian.dealing with different religion is really hard.Start dating ,there's a lot of fish in the ocean.
2006-07-12 23:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by angelica b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt love you that much, if he did he would already have told his parents the truth about you
2006-07-12 23:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by caver nico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another boyfriend who is a Christian.
Keep your friendship with him. He will never give up his faith. Age does not matter to you, but it does to his family.
2006-07-12 23:40:44 · answer #11 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋