2006-07-12 16:31:59 · 36 answers · asked by j and p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes usually.
2006-07-12 16:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The bride's family paying for the bulk of the wedding is traditional (if you're the traditional type). It is also customary to give the new couple a gift. It doesn't need to be expensive, but it should be unique and thoughtful. Passing on a treasured family heirloom at this time is appropriate. For example, on my daughter's wedding day, I plan to give her a book of heirloom family recipes that I have collected over the years along with a letter passing on words of wisdom, and what this book of recipes means to me. Families gather around food, and it is a big part of celebrations usually. I know it's the year 2006, but in some things, I am a traditionalist. Ain't no shame in being a damn good cook! Some of the recipes in my book are my own, some are my Mom's favorites, and some belong to my Grandmother, Great-Grandmother or Great Aunt. Often in their own handwriting. I've put them in page protectors and bound them in a good quality binder.
This is just one idea. There are lots of other possibilities.
2006-07-12 17:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By traditional standards....yes...you should still buy them a wedding gift. Regardless if it is right or wrong the majority of society feel that paying for the wedding is the obligation of the brides family. But like I mentioned...that does not excuse you from gift giving. Now of course these rules change if this is not her first marriage. Take care and I hope you have an amazing evening!
2006-07-12 16:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by silent.peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would. Yes, you've shelled out alot of money for the wedding, but think of all the gifts you and your wife recieved for your wedding, and which one meant the most. Then give your daughter and new son-in-law a gift that they will cherise for years to come. Of course, like other said, it doesn't need to be expensive, just heartfelt. A crystal vase, picture frame or Bible would be a great ide.
2006-07-12 17:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got married 2 months ago...no....but do make sure your wife throws a good bridal shower and give the gift then. Something useful....a pan, house gift, etc. For the wedding, get her something small, but meaningful...you're already putting up enough money. My parents got us the book "Getting the Love You Want" by Harville Hendrix, Ph. D......and they signed it...a great gift, if you asked me...recommended from Oprah...and a really good book...new couples always need some advice...just an option for you.
2006-07-12 16:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your daughter would expect it, yet I do think she would appreciate it if ya'll did. Ya know, have your wife buy her a nice teddy for theor wedding night and ya'll give it to her before the wedding. Her and her hubby will love ya'll forever. A gift they will both enjoy. You'll only be out another $30-$50 or so.
2006-07-12 16:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think the bride and groom should pay for their own wedding. Times have changed and that custom should be tossed out like the one where they checked the bedsheets after the wedding night to see if the bride was a virgin. But to answer your question.... If the parents pay for the wedding I think that is their gift.
2006-07-12 16:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents paid for the wedding, reception and the honeymoon! They gave us a present as well. I don't think you have to buy them something expensive. A gift can be something you can make, something that is heartfelt.
2006-07-12 16:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Miss U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no, just a nice card. You have already given a HUGE gift by paying for the wedding.
2006-07-12 16:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just give them a gift, but it doesn't have to be purchased. You could give them something sentimental, someting silly, whatever.
Here are a few things I would love to recieve:
A photo collage of my husband and myself or of my family
A handmade blanket in our favorite colors
The baby crib I had as a child
A book on marriage
A piece of family jewelery
2006-07-12 17:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by angry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! That's ridiculous. You already gave your child more than most parent's can give, a full check for her glorious wedding. Don't be so stunted by what "tradition" seems to say. I think you and your wife should feel *more* than satisfied in what you've done for your girl.
2006-07-12 16:35:43 · answer #11 · answered by Playwright Extraordinaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋