My boyfriends 6yrold gets on my nerves, I have no kids, she needs disiplining How do i handle this?

Question

Ive been with him for 1 year and I have plenty experience with children but not in this type of situation. I would never hit.

Answer 1

This is not your child, so you don't discipline her. You can get into serious trouble with Family Services should you try. I don't know how old you are, but it sounds as though you don't have that much experience with children. Six year old children are not going to act like little adults. They misbehave. This child may not see her father that much and when you are there, she may be competing for his attention. She is his child, he has a responsibility to her before he does to you. that is the right thing and moral thing for him to do. He helped to bring her into this world, so she should come first in his life, until she is grown , way before any other relationship.
If you persist in a relationship with any guy that has children, know in advance that you are setting yourself up for long term complications, it will never be easy.
If this child is too much for you, the best thing you can do for yourself, is find a boyfriend that hasn't brought any children into the world, yet.

Answer 2

You are in a no-win position. If the child truly needs dicipline the father must be the one. If the child is bad, it is a reflection of his lack of real caring, and I am afraid you will be treated the same or worse. Try Guidance, but be careful.......p.s. have been a step-dad to three kids for 15 years, the hardest thing I've ever done. It was worth it, we get along fine.

Answer 3

first of all,you need to consider if you are in this for the long haul. if so,then maybe sit your boyfriend down after the child has gone to bed so that there are no distractions and bring up the conversation gently and offer to help him if he feels he is getting stressed with bringing up a 6 yr old and that you are there for him. maybe you need to spend some time with the child yourself get to know her. after all it is a big adjustment for her too! spend time all together so that the child can see that you are going to be around and supporting her father. I find colouring and drawing, a relaxing activity to do together.
The child also has to learn that being naughty won't neccasarily get her the attention she wants.
good luck.

Answer 4

that has always been one of my biggest fears...meeting a guy with a kid and that kid is a f-ing brat

Good Luck is all I can say....if this is a serious relationship then be honest with him about the things that drive you crazy about the kid...try not to be too picky but don't forget if you decide to proceed further in the relationship that child will always be in the picture

Answer 5

In my opinion you should take a break. That is his child. If you can not be around her then don't. Disciplining a child is the parents responsibility.

Answer 6

Talk to him about it and see if you two can come to some agreement. If you can't, it's time to move on. It's a bad scene to get yourself into if you can't agree on how you fit into his and his child's life and who wants to be with a guy who has a child he won't control?

Answer 7

Not your child, not your problem. It is up to your boyfriend to discipline the kid if he feels it's necessary.

Answer 8

you don't. let him discipline the child, because by you discipling the child you and your boyfriend might have problems later. If and when she becomes your step-daughter, then you can discipline her.

Answer 9

u don't she isn't ur child,u tell your man,and let him deal with her,if he doesn't u might need to find another bf....i hate to tell ya this....kids from other relationships,dont respect steps/gf's/bf's! i was 1...and i still hate that *****!!! might want to find some1 else! it is his daughter and she should always be 1st! good luck!

Answer 10

*Disciplined

Also, ask him to do something or just deal with it.