Insecurity?
I have issues trusting men because i have been hurt in the past its like I always feel like they are lying to me or its just in me head I feel like i just need to believe he is telling the truth and when i try i just cant
2006-07-12 16:22:48 · 9 answers · asked by omarionsgirl1983 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Experience has made me rich and now they're after me."
This a line in a Madonna song and it is true for me.
I sounds to me like you've realized kisses aren't contracts and that's a good start. Men are biologically programmed to cheat. Socialization will not change this most men are as faithful as their options. Why do you think the divorce rate is 60%.
Don't believe that crap about "you haven't found the right guy" or someday your prince will come" Not only are those passive cop out answers but they put the blame on YOU for men's behaviour.
Listen to your instincts if you feel he's lying he is. Don't get too serious have fun and practice safer sex TRUST KILLS WOMEN DEAD. Don't be a statistic!
Hope I helped
2006-07-12 16:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 17⤊ 2⤋
It cuts both ways.
You have to look at your conduct and your character. If you hold yourself out as virtuous and work toward virtuous pursuits, then you will attract similar men.
You sound very young. If you are in the 16 - 20 range, you will discover that the guys that you are not attracted to now are the guys that will be the solid, better men that you are looking for when you are 25 - 30.
You need to rise about the traffic and get out of the "game". This may mean not dating, lowering expectations, just going out for dinner, or just getting "laid".
You will probably be better off reading books, studying and getting into a career. If you became a nurse or a physician's assistant, for example, this could put you into a community of people that are better and more honest then people working at a restaurant, a club or a grocery store.
2006-07-13 07:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there ,going thru that now with my girlfriend, I have told her many times I understand where she is coming from and we can take things at her speed and if I get in her way she is to let me know and I will give her space, it is hard for me to leave her alone, i want to be together 24-7 but she needs room togrow and learn to trust again, it realy is working well, she is learning to love again, but not feeling pushed, sometimes i feel she does not care but then she calls and wants to spend time togther, i guess what i,m saying is even if it hard take it slow and easy and build a relationship that is built on trust not lust.
2006-07-12 16:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by citisat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very normal reaction, however to get over it you may need to see a professional, or just take things at a slower pace. If he can't or won't handle it then you know he is not the right person for you.
2006-07-12 16:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah... it's good so that u can protect ur heart from being hurt again.. but when u meet with the right guy, who does the right thing.. u gotta trust him a little.. trust is very important in relationship... have a lil faith in urself.
2006-07-12 16:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by eiraz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force yourself. Give yourself some breathing room. If you think that you REALLY do have issues, a therapist would really be a help.
2006-07-12 16:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by pink_heart18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. It is hard to trust again when you have been burned.
2006-07-12 16:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you can't. They probably are lying to you.
2006-07-12 16:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is understandable. i've been there
2006-07-12 16:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by Giggles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋