is there a certain way to grieve?

Question

my dad recently died from bone cancer is there a certain way of grieving?

Answer 1

I'm with you on this one. My dad recently dies of renal cell carcinoma. Everyone grieves in there own way. There is no right way or wrong way to grieve. You know what you need to do for yourself in order to grieve and overcome weakness. I don't think I'll ever stop grieving. If you'd like to chat, I would love that. Support helps, especially from people who have actually been in your shoes. Deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Answer 2

Sorry for your loss. Every individual person has a unique way of dealing with the mourning process. At some moments you might feel very sad, then suddenly you might have a memory that makes you laugh, and yet other moments you might feel extremely angry--all this is normal. Usually, after a loss, a person will go through various states of mind that include shock and surprise, denial, anger, extreme sadness, and eventually acceptance. It is not unusual to "bounce" back and forth through these states before finally reaching a peaceful acceptance of what has occurred. Some days will feel good, other days will feel not so good, but in due time things will get better. If you could graph the progress in the grief and recovery, it would look more like a mountain range going upward (upward meaning happier state) than a steady upward line. Things will get better. Your mind and body just need time to do "their thing". Be patient. It will get better.

Answer 3

You can grieve any way you want for as long as you want. Grieving is very personal.
I lost my dad in January, and I sometimes think about him and miss him terribly and then the water wells up in my eyes and tears start pouring.
My dad was 81 years old, he was white headed, and a little confused, He could not walk. He was incontinent. He always looked after me and I always looked after him. He was my best friend and I knew him my whole life and I miss him. I used to take him for rides in my jeep. He was so frail and short sitting in the front seat. I seat belted him in and off we went. I promised him a Jeep ride when the weather warmed up. It just wasn't meant to be. In his confusion he wanted me to buy him a jeep and we planned the whole thing out together. He didn't know he didn't have any money, but we planned together. I would like to have his name put on the passenger door of my next jeep. "phil" . I will probably grieve forever. I am not a kid either I am 42 yrs old.

Answer 4

I lost my mother to breast cancer exactly one month ago today. The first days and the funeral were tough, but going to work made a big difference. My family, on the other hand, is not taking it as well. They keep asking me if I'm alright and if there's anything I need. I guess my grieving was a lot shorter than theirs but I feel weird about it as well. Everyone lives their own lives, but some people thing you should react based how they react. Do what YOU need to do, not what other people think you should.

Answer 5

no. Everyone is different. You could grieve a number of ways. The list is endless! But i am very sorry for your loss and i know i dont know you but i will pray that you get through this soon. So sorry. Keep your head up.

Answer 6

Many people grieve differently - at different times, different lengths, different emotions... Just remember it's natural. Cry, journal, meditate, go to counseling but NEVER feel grieving is wrong. Open your emotions, reflect on your fathers life - the good/bad/happy/sad. Through time you will be at peace. Remember it's a cycle birth-life-death we all go through it just at different times. I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

No everyone has their own way of dealing with death of someone special to them...and whatever emotions you are feeling are completely normal...and you will have many of them,but they will lessen as time goes by...certain ones may never disappear completely...usually the feeling of missing that person when something triggers a memory that you hold dear....I know what youre going thru as I lost my mom to multiple myeloma last year and my dad to pancreatic cancer 8 years ago...and his death still seems like yesterday at times....but you still have the memories

Answer 8

I love the way some oriental cultures make lanterns and put a candle in and float it down a little park creek. I think that beautiful. Anything that you think you would be appropriate. Do things he liked to do. Write in a journal. Talk about him with family and friends. The more you talk the better but if you don't feel like it yet it's your decision too.

Answer 9

everybody grieves differently but i do reccomend talking with someone about what is going on and how you are feeling. trying to be brave and carry on as normal just bottles up what you're feeling and eventually can come out in negative ways such as depression or substance abuse. deal with your grief and give yourself time to heal.

Answer 10

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