i was just on the phone with my boyfriend and he said it was fine when he went to the club, but not ok when I go to the club because he's not a "ho" like me. We broke up for a couple of years and I slept with somebody else right up until a week before we got back together, so now he thinks I am a "ho". Why?
2006-07-12 16:10:19 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, for starters, if you keep up with this relationship, then you are at a dissadvantage...
He doesnt respect you, and thats all there is too it!! No ifs, ans or buts about it, your TRASH!
Now, that is what He is thinking, and I dont think you will ever change his mind, or he will ever trust you, so, you will always be "something" that will be his to "use".
Break up with this man, or you will live a life of misery, and mental and possibly physical abuse.
No one should be subject to this treatment, and if he starts right off the bat, then you know what your in for!
Dont go for that thing, where he says "I'm only joking"... Because he IS NOT!! He may say anything to keep you in his "clutches", since you have empowered him to be a 'user', and you, my dear, are what he is going to be 'using'...
Get some one who will respect you, for whom you are...
And, if you DO decide to go with this "guy", then get counceling!! (I'm serious!!! You need to find out why you are willing to put up with people who will degrade you and put you down, and your willing to take it!!! You will need HELP!)
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-12 16:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically, because he thinks you're his property rather than a person, and he's pissed that you had the nerve to move on after the breakup. Guys like that are a dime a dozen, and they're all worthless. They give real men a bad name.
Anyone who calls you a "ho" is definitely fair game for the trash bin of relationship land. Be smart and dump his sorry butt pronto. You deserve more than what he has to offer -- certainly in the respect department. Perhaps when he's "talking to the hand" instead of having your company, he'll wise up a bit.
Be sure to let him know why you're leaving him too. Guys like that are usually clueless when it comes to such things.
2006-07-12 16:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by Brandon F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen from one woman to another. It's not Alright for a man, any man to call U a "ho". That's disrespectful in any case or scenario. He needs to think about what if the shoe was on the other foot. I'm sure he has sister as well as a mother and would be furious if someone had disrespected them in any kinda way. From my point of view, Im no Dr.Phil or Oprah but I think U need to let him go. B/C that's somewhat of verbal abuse.Even if it didn't sound like it,girlfriend it surely was.
2006-07-12 16:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by tenonchiewms 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOO!!! IT IS NOT OK. If he does not respect you enough to have an equal relationship than you don't need to be in that relationship. He probably doesn't want you to go to the club because he is the one being the "ho" and doesn't want you to find out. Follow him out there one day and see how he is carrying himself. You will see who is the "ho"
2006-07-12 16:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He doesn't respect you or your feelings. Of course you knew that when he went to a club. He was looking for a ho when he went there and didn't want you along.
2006-07-12 16:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by smommeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you're a "HO" because you slept with someone other than him. There is something wrong with the way he thinks. I think you should give the whole "brake up" thing another try, maybe this time it will stick. Dump him, find someone who treats you better.
2006-07-12 16:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by Some guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be getting played. why he gotta go to the club?? to see a chick! you better wake up and he dont want you going cause he creeping !he know he gon get caught. see he still mad cause she had sex with someone else and he mad inside. he called you a ho cause he cant believe you slept with someone else other than you. just try to catch him cheating before you dump him cause he shoudnt call you a ho! you gods child not a ho!
2006-07-12 16:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Natasha♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of guys are one-sided thinkers. they see what is happening to people around them, but they don;t see what is wrong about themselves. Of course, all guys aren't like that. But this particular guy should not be with you, since you do have a right to go clubbing as much as you want, and after you broke up with him, you had the right to sleep with whoever you wanted. If he can't see that, then it's your call to dump him. And do YOU think it's right for him to call you a hoe? Whether or not he was justified to say that is totally up to you. and it's your call for whether or not you should get rid of him. Because you have ALL of the power in the relationship. trust me, you do.
2006-07-12 16:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by Child of Coal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not a ho and you should not let anyone call you a ho that is just wrong he is just trying to control you and dnt let no man NO MAN control you gul and u should not get back togetha thats what i think but it still isnt right for him to call you a ho that is verbal abuse call him a ***** just make it even
2006-07-12 16:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's mad at what did and i don't think that is right for him calling you a ho since you broke up.
2006-07-12 16:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋