If a relative asked this of you could you do it?

Question

If you had a relative, (could be Mom or Dad, Brother Sister Aunt Uncle) and they was dying of cancer and they were in bad pain and only had a matter of weeks left and they asked you if you would help or get them help to die so they wouldnt suffer....And it was legal to help them with a doctors help...would you fullfill thier wish to end thier suffering, or would you let them go to the end so you could have as much time with them as you could? Please answer from your heart

Answer 1

i would fulfil there wish, even though it would break my heart. but i would know that they were in a better place!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

That is a tough question.
I'd possibly do what hurt me the most and them the least.
by that i mean I'd have to let them go by taking them off any life support they may be on, and may be getting the doctors to up the pain medication which over time i guess would lead to there demise.

after all if you really love someone if they are suffering and you know of a way out and if they want to end that suffering (ONLY WHEN THEY CAN GIVE CONSENT DOES THE ABOVE APPLY)
you should do all you can to make the suffering stop even if it hurts you to do it. you need to be strong.

keeping someone alive and or prolonging there suffering against there wishes is a selfish act. EVERYONE should have the right to choose when they die.

Answer 3

My grandmother was 74. She got really sick really fast. She was eventually put on life support and we kept her alive like that for almost a month. If we had to do it over again, we would have let her go sooner, just to end her suffering. If it's the wish of the one who's sick.... I say, respect the wish. You'll be glad you did in the end. There are a lot worse things than death. Pain and suffering is not a pretty sight. It's hard to watch someone you love in soooo much agony. I love her to this day and she's gone 10yrs now. I will never regret letting her go but I'll always regret not ending her pain sooner. She would not have wanted to live like that. This is just my opinion and I know not everyone will agree with me, but I watched her suffer and until you go through that.... you'll never be able to honestly answer a question like this. It's a heartbreaking thing to do but I believe it's for the best. Good Luck and let you loved ones know how much they mean to you while their still healthy and can enjoy your company!

Answer 4

I would never assist in a suicide like this. Of course I don't want them in pain, but I would never commit murder because of it, and this is nothing short of murder, even if legal in your state. No one wishes to suffer, dear, but you can't end a life that is in God's hands, and if you do this, it's something you'll have to live with. Try to keep this person comfortable and love the extra time you'll have together until the end.

Answer 5

I spent the last six months of my mothers life taking care of her as she had terminal cancer.
Doctors assured me they could keep her pain free and they did.
I would not have put her on life support to prolong her life. After her final operation I brought her back to her own house to die. That way she had some control over her life. Hospice will send nurses and aids to a home to help assist a terminal patient.

I am glad I had those 6 months taking care of her, because in a way, it payed her back for all those years of raising and taking care of me and my siblings. I don't regret a minute of the time I had with her in the final days.

She passed away, riddled with cancer, but it was peaceful and there was no pain. Had I tried to end her life, one minute before she was meant to go, I don't think I could have lived with myself easily, in the years since.

We made her comfortable, and filled her last days with as much love and beauty as we could.

Answer 6

Speaking from first hand experience here...

When my brother was dieing..he hinted and joked about me helping him. He was in awful pain from his cancer but all I could bring myself to do was yell at doctors and stay on them about keeping him as comfortable as possible.

You never know how you would handle such a situation UNTIL YOU ARE KNEE DEEP IN IT!

When the time did come to make the decision to either start life support or let him go..I made the decision to let him go. He made me promise not to allow them to put him on support so I am proud to have followed his wishes.

Rest in peace Allen!

Answer 7

i know i couldnt stomach, something like that, even if i knew they would not longer be with me a week later. i just could let them die by my hands, instead of a natural cause. i think you would have to be in the position of the person in pain, to see how much, pain. if we were to realize the amount of pain, and see how their suffereing, them maybe i would be able to something as drastic as that, but them again, maybe i couldn't.
and i don't think i would ever put someone in the position, wher they would have to chose between life and deaht for me. but then again, maybe i'm a selfish person, and cant see a better reasoning behind this question.

Answer 8

If it were legal, I'd help them. Anything else is just selfish. I'd want their pain to end. Not watch them suffer for a few more weeks so I didn't have to let go.

Answer 9

I would have to say that I would help them. Having two family members die of cancer. Ask your self if it was you what would you want. Would you want to be in pain or be free, and at peace. No matter what they are always in your heart, and with you in spirit. Good luck and may you have peace.

Answer 10

I think practicing euthanasia would be difficult with anyone and especially a family member. I would try all of the painkillers known to man, but I don't think I could kill them or let them kill themselves. Life is too long to risk jeopardizing the after-world. I had a hard time putting my cat to sleep.

Answer 11

This is the philosophy of Hospice.
The caregivers give counseling to the patient and family and assure a painless death with dignity.
You shouldn't be placed in a position to decide and may regret it the rest of your life it was wrong.