My 2 yr old doesnt listen. I have tried everything. Nothing works. Please Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

My son doesnt listen at all. I know they are terrible 2s but man oh man it has gone way too far. I am nice about it, sometimes (most of the time) I yell at him, I put him in the corner, or spank his butt. Nothing is working. He does have a 5 yr old brother but he is such a good boy. Then he does have a 4 month old sister too. Do you think he is angry or something? I catch him always playing on the stairs or jumping off stairs. I tell him no, I make him do it again, etc. He basically just laughs at me. I need some help!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

He is in the terrible two's yes, but he is also the middle child which is another emotional thing for a child. All of which he is going to desire more attention. He will go for the negative attention if he feels he is not getting enough of the positive attention. Try having him help you with dinner, snack making, also have him help with his 4 month old sister. Little tykes enjoy helping. Let him help with the house cleaning to, give him a dry cloth and ask him to wipe the tables off. He will think he is doing really important things and it should make a difference. How ever, do not let him get away with laughing at you. Teach him it is disrespectful and not acceptable. As far as the corner, that will work... yet it will take a very long time and so many tries before he actually gets it. You really have to be consistent no matter what you do choose to do. Positive reinforcement is a good thing to implement though.

Answer 3

well not only are dealing with the problems of a 2 year old but you also half to deal with a 5 year old and 4 month old so your hand are full so i am sure he is At an age were he want mommy all to him self and not wanting to share and being a middle child is the worst i know i am one so you are dealing with more on that part as you said you have a 5 year old you must praise and a 4 month old that needs you so your 2 year old is lost in the middle, so you need to find a way to give him a little him time i know it asking a lot you have your hands full and although i don't jump down the throats of those spanking i do think at 2 years old he is just learning and may need more talking to be patient i think a lot of your stress may be picked up on your two your old.

Answer 4

Your 2 year old seems happy to get a rise out of you. If he does something and you react by yelling, putting him in a corner, etc, then he is getting attention. With two other kids, are you able to give him the positive attention he needs? Two year olds naturally want to try new things, to test their abilities. Jumping off stairs seems dangerous to you and me but he is trying to either get your attention or seeing what he can do. Walking and running are new to a toddler so bouncing off stairs, running fast and falling down as a result is fun and educational. Your job is to keep him safe. Be there for him when he's on the stairs. Only allow him there when you or another adult are around. He may be a risk-taker unlike his older sibling but he sounds like he's got his own independent personality! Try to appreciate him for who he is.

Answer 5

Do not yell or hit your child unless you want to teach them how to hit and yell to deal with their frustrations, because you are the number one example to them and they learn how to deal with their own basic emotions from you. Now, a light spank on the butt isn't bad, but only if you want to get your point across, but nothing that would actually cause pain. Your son needs more one on one attention apart from you and your daughter, which trust me, I know is hard to do. I have a 22 month old and a six month old. When the baby is taking a nap make sure you spend even 15 minutes with your son by yourselves so he feels like his mommy is still there for him and is his friend. (Kids are insecure, their lives revolve around us.) Now, when your son starts being bad, like touching a lamp for example, first warn your son "no," then if he continues, go over and pick him up turn him away from the lamp so his back is to it, look at him at eye level, tell him no and if he does it again, he gets a time out. If he goes back for the lamp pick him up and go put him in the corner, or a quiet spot for two minutes. Make sure he stays there. I admit, I cheated the first few times we did the time out corner, I could only do it for about thirty seconds, but it gets easier, and they learn. Don't get too worried, part of this is definitely age. Also, get your two year old to help you out with the baby. I'll have my daughter "tell stories" to the baby... she just sits and babbles to her, or getting a blanket is easy for them, too. This way, your two year old has a responsibility and can realize that he is the "big brother" and is helping out mommy while getting praise from you. Good Luck and it sounds like you're doing a great job!

Answer 6

that is what is called terrible 2's. I wouldn't worry too much now because he is just acting like a normal 2 year old. I would suggest time outs. First I would warn him by saying if you don't stop doing that you are going to get a time out. I count to 5 and that usually works. and if it doesn't by the time I get to 5 and my son is doing something i just asked him not to do. He immedately gets a time out.

As far as the laughing in your face just get down to his level and tell him mommy doesn't think this is funny and do not laugh at mommy when I am telling you to do something or not to do something. Keep a very straight, stern face and be consistant. If you warn him with a time out make sure you go through with it.

and only keep him in a time out for 2 minutes. You can also try a kitchen timer and tell him when it goes off then that is when you time out ends. Me, myself I use the oven timer. I then go to him and tell him okay you can come out of your time out now and then I tell him he was in a time out and that he diddn't listen to mommy and then tell him if he does or doesn't do it again then he will get another time out. I ask him to tell me he is sorry. and then ask him to give me a hug and kiss and for me this actually works.

As far as spanking him. I am a believe that you shouldn't hit your children under any circumstances. That is just the way I grew up and implementing that on to my child. HItting doesn't solve anything other than hurting your child, hurting their feeling and then in the end you are the one who will feel guilty for doing so.

My husband tells me that our son doesn't listen I try to tell him that he is only 2 1/2 and this is what all children do. I started training my husband on the time out method I have worked on with our son and now Hubby is onboard and it really does work.

I hope it all works out for you.
You can message or emal me if you wan to talk more about this cause I know what you are going through believe me.

Answer 7

Put him in his room and send him to bed. Two year olds hate that. Let him cry for hours and sooner or later he will learn his lesson. The problem with child experts these days is that they refuse to follow the old fashioned rules for proper child parenting techniques. I am talking about spanking the child and not going light on them either. There is nothing wrong with the proven technique to teach children right from wrong then old fashioned discipline. I don't condone using paddles on the child but if you spank hard enough to make the child cry loud enough that they feel "some" pain not an overwhelming use of force but enough to show the child who is in charge. Forget about some of these idiots out there who claim to know it all when it comes to raising children.
Dr. Spock was one of the biggest so called names in raising children. However, did you also know that his own son committed suicide because he had a terrible addiction to cocaine? Some expert Dr. Spock turned out to be huh? Incidently, Dr. Spoke believed we should never spank our children either.

Food for thought!
Good luck

Answer 8

pick your mode of punishment and stick to it. i watched an episode of the nanny where they had a small carpet mat, and every time the child misbehaved they put the child on the mat for 1 min for each year of age. a time out in a fav chair or the couch wont work because the child gets to sit in the chair or couch to watch tv or be rewarded as well. it has to be a place where the child knows what they have done wrong. It was wonderful advice from a show that i really only watched the one episode.

Answer 9

He wants more attention... maybe he feels threatened by the younger sibling's presence.... If you praise one child more than another... that can make the other feel less loved. I am an only child with many friends who have siblings and have felt that way... maybe you need to set aside more time just you and him, he may be two, but he still needs just as much mommy and me time as the 4 month old! Just a different kind of attention. I hope this helps!

Answer 10

try this if u want him to stay off the stairs make it a game for him instead of yelling since that is not working tell him I bet u cant stay off the stairs if u can let me see if u can. make obediance a game it works most of the time for me for my boy. im sure you do this but try to set a time for just him and you if u can i know you have other kids but maybe when the younger one is sleeping you can and one most likely plays by his self could do this. just set a time for just you and him see if that may help he may just want more of your time and he wants it how ever he can get it. that may be the problem or he is just testing you to see how far he can go. I hope this helps you

Answer 11

well you should spank him more that always helps but i think the reason behind all a this is because he wants more attention maybe he kinda feels left out . so yeah try given him a little more attention and if that do sent work then spank him or put him on the corner but not more then needed hope this helps