so this guy asked me out, and well were friends and all but not so close as you'd think we are, so he asked me out, and i said yes but now i regret it, i don't really like him and he really really like me, he keeps on sending these cute e-mail and calls me but when i call him every 5 minutes he's like i'm sorry just hold on a sec, and that sec turns out to be 20 minutes the he askes me to call him bak later, so when i do, he does the same thing. then i don't bother to even call anymore. i don't want to go out with some one like that and some one i don't really like. but i don't want to hurt his feeling either and when i try to tell him that i don't think we should go out anymore, he keeps on saying but i love you don't go please Maryam i still want you....help?!? i seriously don't want to go out with him but how should i tell him without hurting his feeling and still being friends with him???
2006-07-12 15:39:59 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hard call, it is always hard when it is a friend and you don't want to hurt his feelings.. i am in a similar situation, if you get an answer please help me out
2006-07-12 15:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by answerqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you are saying you don't want to hurt his feelings . . . do you think he really cares about yours, when he's constantly putting you on hold?
You are making a wise decision . . . this guy is bad news! He doesn't know the first thing about communication. That is one of the most important things in a relationship.
Don't worry about making him feel bad - you need to do what's right for you.
I would say at this point, you need to be brutally honest with him, making sure he understands why you are breaking it off and also to leave you alone, once and for all.
I'm not even sure if this is the kind of guy you'll be able to stay friends with. Sounds like he could be obsessed and that is not safe for you!
Good luck, honey!
2006-07-12 22:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by penwrite5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings are going to be hurt no matter what you do. But just keep going the way things are now is not right. You should have him meet you and have coffee and then just tell him. Tell him that he is not a bad guy but you just dont see you and him as a couple. That you are really looking for someone that you can se your self with years from now. It is better then just playing it off.
2006-07-12 22:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what most do and that is to say "I realy like you BUT just as a friend" or words to that effect.
it will crush him if he likes you or even thinks he loves you. but then so will any way of breaking up or letting him down.
trust me there is no way to tell a guy your just not interested in hm the same way he is about you.
think about it. is there a way to let you down or break up that would not hurt you? i'm guessing that there isn't.
so be honest. and just tell him face to face. he may get angry upset or confused. just stay calm this will keep him calm and things should work it's self out.
good luck
2006-07-12 22:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you only like him as a friend nothing more, nothing less....tell him that he deserves someone who will equally love him....and that going out with him is something you're not comfortable to do....and that if he really loves you he will accept the fact that you do not love him . That you still wanted to be a friend to him....telling him early is far better than giving him false hopes...
2006-07-12 22:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can always say well i know that your really love me and all but i dont think we are exactly right for each other but we can still be friends, thats what you can say and if he is seriously hurt then tell him that life moves on and you will find some other girls its not like i am the only girl in the world... that what u can tell him
2006-07-12 22:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by DarkShadowX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i have been through something kinda like that we wernt that close as friends and he asked me out and i said yeah but then i knew iddnt like him and i just said it over da phone and now we ahte each other and i really dont think that people really end up being friends like ever because i know u still wanna be his friend now but later ur gonna feel really uncomfortable and u wont even wanna talk to him so i really hope this helps
2006-07-12 22:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by tAkiiN liFe aSz iT cOmEs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out with him if you don't like him. That would be unfair to you and him. Plus, it sounds like he's not very proper on the phone, maybe he's nervous when you call but that doesn't mean he's lost his sense of manners, leaving you waiting like that, geez!
Don't go out with him just to spare his feelings and your image. Because in the end his feelings will be hurt anyway. Better to stop it now.
Good luck,
2006-07-12 22:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that you don't feel a connection and you both deserve to be with someone that you have that chemistry with. It may be the best way to let him down by saying he's such a great guy and he deserves to be with someone who he has chemistry with, and it's just not you. You should also tell him that your friendship means more to you than to pursue a relationship that isn't meant to be.
2006-07-12 22:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by Rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calmly explain to him that there are more women out there and they would be fortunate enough to have him give all the attention to them. If you are trapped in a relationship because a guy is making u guilty, u need to get out.
2006-07-12 22:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by VandyViolin09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him firmly and clearly. Don't be rude or nasty, say that you're sorry to disappoint him, but make it clear that you've thought about it a lot and you're just not interested in him, and you're not going to change your mind. Then you need to avoid him until he gets over it.
If you happen to know any other girls who are interested in him, tell them that you don't want him and as far as you're concerned they should go for it and stop him from annoying you.
2006-07-12 22:50:57 · answer #11 · answered by Roger D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋