Fighting problem?

Question

Do i have a problem if i always have the constant thought to fight someone, fist fights and such. I always find myself comparing me to others wether or not i could take them on in a fight, even if their complete strangers. I dont go out and start fights or anything i just find that i cant wait to get into another fight.

Answer 1

Yes, you do have a problem. You seem to have suppressed anger issues. May help to talk with someone about this.

Answer 2

It'll be helpful if you can describe how he was getting beat up. For example, if he was mounted and was just being pounded away and clearly had no way of escaping from it then yes. But by the sound of it, neither side fought enough to make the fight more decisive so I would say no contest but then your friends would probably start fighting again and this time, they could end up even worse. The best thing to do is to just tell them what you just said you think about the fight. It's either no contest, tell what you think, or tell them to not worry about it, etc. I don't know them so I have no idea how they would react to anything I would try to say to prevent them from fighting again.

Answer 3

Why not take martial arts? Channel your urge into something productive. There are plenty of people that like to fight. Obviously you know it is wrong to wantonly hurt people or you would not ask this question.

Why don't you spar? Or do you want to grapple? Both?

There are many, many differetn styles. Jujitsu has a lot of locks and wrist techniques. Judo is japanese wresting. Taikwondo uses a lot of kicks. Muay thai is kick boxing. Arnice uses sticks. Try several different types of arts out before you settle on one.

You can discipline and strengthen your body and mind, learn fascinating things and get the urge to fight out of your system. Now if you get into a fight in the future you will be prepared. More importantly, martial arts should teach you that it is the stronger man who can decline a fight. One should only use martial arts in self defense.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Yea, it can be a bit of a problem. My guess is that you either had a dad who thought that a man's worth was based on how well he fought, or brothers that you had to wrestle and fight with. It's not a big thing unless you act on it. Some people don't play, and fights often end in stabbings or shootings these days.

Try to find other ways to consider yourself, remember the real measure of a man is how well he fights the battle to control himself.

Answer 5

YES, you do have a problem.
So did my son, who now has been convicted of a felony for fighting!! It will be on his record for the rest of his life.
He was never the one to start a fight either but he could sure beat someones ***! He injured someone to the point he landed in jail several times.
Look for help, you have an anger mangement problem.
Please do not ruin your future, it is not worth it. You may think you are the big man at the time but you will pay down the road somewhere.

Answer 6

I think you're completely normal. I'm wondering if I could take you on in a brawl. I think about everyone that way. I don't act on these thought either, Until I drink. I actually will wait for someone to make the slightest mistake like bumping into me. (I make no attempt to avoid it). I even have dreams about beating people into bloody pulps. Mine comes from a F*cked up childhood I'm sure of it. Just do some soul searching and remember no one is as perfect as me, I mean you. Lol.

Answer 7

That must be an awful feeling to have to deal with. There has to be some deep feelings of anger inside and your only outlet is to "fight" someone. Try fighting the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing with something that will bring you some level of hope, joy, accomplishment & happiness. It really would help if you spoke with someone, maybe a counsellor or a pastor. Good Luck...P.S. Don't hurt anyone...because you will only be hurting yourself in the end.

Answer 8

Depends on what country you live in. If you are a USA citizen, you are commiting assault. Even if they 'started it", you can be charged, tried, and sentenced for assault. If it involves a minor, the parents can have you charged.

The thoughts? They're yours. Words? Yours, as long as you don't threaten someone, or damage them (feeling bad is not damage). I just got threatened by someone and had to contact my attorney to take legal action.

Remember, you choose your behavior. It is ALWAYS in your control.

Have you taken self-defense classes? Boxing? You ought to. That kind of excitement about fighting is rare, but a useful skill that we have thousands of years of breeding to encourage. It's only recently that men were taught to act like women and women have been taught to hate men. Neither of them do that naturally. Men and women have natural inclinations, and can defeat those inclinations with effort to become successful at just the opposite, but why do that to yourself?

JOIN THE MILITARY! If you are also patriotic, and have ethics, we could use you. Channel your aggression (natural) into a fine-tuned fighting machine to defend your country! Or go into professional fighting (DON'T Go underground. Then you get to be some criminal's dog, and you don't want that).

Good luck to you. If you become one of the military, you will be one of my heroes, and one of my daughter's heroes.

(she's too young for you, trust me)

Answer 9

I don't constanly compare myself to other people. In school, I used to get into fights all the time. The reason is because I don't take any ****. The kids didn't like that. I compare myself to people so that I know who to run from and who to stand up to. I don't think you have a problem.

Answer 10

I was in the same mental state when I was in my teens.

You are probably a hyperactive kid who is confident about your physical fitness. You feel you are tough. Right?

Here's a remedy... Take up a contact-sport like boxing, karate, taekwondo etc. These sports gives you the avenue to show what you've got, and at the same time discipline you mentally. You will start to realize that there are people who do not appear to be tough, but in fact they are tougher than you.

I was in Karate for 10 years, got a black belt but 10 times more humble than I was before I took up the art.

It worked for me. Hope it does for you too.

Answer 11

You need to take some anger management classes, or even see a therapist. This impulse to fight is not healthy, and the fact that it results from comparing yourself to others point to some self-esteem issues that you need to work out.