should i tell him about my baby before i even consider datein him?? like it should make a difference right??? sum guys dont want to date a chic with kids specially a baby?? right?? how soon do i blab it out?? that way he knows im a very busy person ??
2006-07-12 15:18:50 · 36 answers · asked by ♫♪♥PUSSaY FART♫♪♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you only wanted answers from guys, but I wanted to chime in. I had my daughter when I was 15 (I'm 29 now). I always told a guy right away. I wouldn't want to date anyone if they wouldn't want to be a part of my daughters life. And ya know what? Not one guy ever changed his mind about dating me after I told them that I had a kid. Times have changed and most men don't seem to mind. And like I said before, if he can't accept the fact that you have a kid then he's not the guy for you!
And to all you ignorant people out there....yes a child is our number one priority but we are still our own person and need to do things for ourselves, just because we are single mothers doesn't mean we can't date!
2006-07-12 15:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by starrinights 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just bring it up while on the first date.
The guy wants to check you out anyway and that is what the first date is for to find out about each other.
I have to eat anyway and I would like to take a pretty girl out for a few drinks. So lets go have some fun and get to know each other. If you think you like him but are not sure if he likes you yet. You can tell him about the child and ask him if the next date you could go somewhere where for a child where he could meet the child. If he walks out without paying well he don't want kids.
2006-07-12 15:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, if he can't deal with it too bad.. That is someone you don't want around anyway.. You don't have to bring it up right away. If you are just getting to know eachother it will come up soon enough in general conversation.. The decissions you are making now should be considered with your child in mind.. Not all men think of babies as baggage, some will really enjoy them and may even consider it a plus.. It shows your ability to be dependent. I find this to be a turn on. The better mother the women is shows me her strengths..There are alot of nice guys out there, sure it may take some time to find the right one, but hey, you and your child are worth it.
2006-07-12 15:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd prefer to know during a first date what i'm getting into. but only tell the guy if your getting signs he may be interested in you for a second date and if you want to continue the friendship/ relationship.
you are right some guys do have a big problem with dating single moms (from a mental stand point). personaly if i were ever in that situation i'd have no hesitation in dating a single mom.
we all need love in our lives.
admitedly i have no love in my life now i'm 100% single ata age 32. but thats more by choice and personal circumstances.
to sum up tell the guy as soon as you can and as soon as you feel comfortable in his presence.
good luck, i hope all works out for you.
2006-07-12 15:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a single mom, I am telling you right now. You need to make it clear right up front. That way you weed out the guys who don't want a kid right now. Not to mention, your baby should always come first, and if you can't tell the truth about having a kid, you aren't mature enough, or responsible enough to be a parent.
2006-07-12 15:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by Maitri* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed one of thse answers someone said "you made a mistake so be honest about it" He must be a young idiot.
a real man will find you more attractive that you have nothing to hide. If he has an issue with it there is no one to blamr but him.
A child makes you a better person. all good parents know this.
I would rather date a single mother. If its not his thing then he isnt what you need anyway.
2006-07-12 15:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by repo2agent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont lie or else later in the relationship it breaks u. u have a baby right now u dont have time for guys. when the baby is older start dating.
mmm if u have a baby.. a guy either thinks ur a sl*t, or u were jsut irresposible, stupid or left behind by another guy.. definitely not a good thing...
but if the guy loves you, then he will accept the fact that u are a single mother... and he will jsut love u and ur baby.
2006-07-12 15:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by SJK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a 2 month old baby and are concerned about dating......you have more of a problem than you realize. You sound pretty screwed up to me. You don't need to be dating until you get your life straightened out......DUH!!!! In the meantime, you could practice writing the English language including spelling and punctuation.
2006-07-12 15:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 23:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight up sweetie...... honesty is always the best policy!
The second date might be best. This will give them a chance to get to know you first, and then tell them openly and honestly that you have a kid..... and then tell them that you wanted for them to get to know you first...... and that you are not hiding anything.
Some may run for the hills, (not worth having and inmature) and some may get a kick out of playing Daddy, those ready for some real responsibility.
All the best!..... "say hi to junior for me!"
2006-07-12 15:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by doctor_johnnie_jointroller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋