I have a girlfriend who's first boyfriend was abusive and controlling. So by no stretch of the mind shes pretty cynical towards relationships and "doesn't like" dating (she does she's just still bitter). So she insinuates to me that she wants to break up/take a break, so I go ahead and tell her we should. She thanks me for being understandable and starts acting like she did before we dated (giving me the "look", flirting, showing alot of interest, etc.). I figured I should give her time to think things out, be her friend. Recently she started acting even more distant and today we had plans but she never answered her phone (of which I called only twice). So it's like total abandonment. Look I know it's probably over so you don't need to tell me that, it already bugs me. Im just looking for some explanation for all this (no I wasn't needy or anything like that. She was happy.)
So Im going to wait a couple of days before calling her again...a good idea?
2006-07-12 15:02:35 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me that she likes the flirting game. Or the way relationships feel when they are new. Or, maybe she's scared of moving on to a more intimate (I mean emotionally, not so much sexually) level.
I'd give her some time. Wait a few days and see what happens. If nothing happens and you feel that you should contact her, try to do so. Just don't be annoying or too pressing about it.
2006-07-12 15:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by cafegrrrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for her and have the patience to coddle her or play her games then by all means go for it. Just remember to be real about it. She obviously has issues that need to be dealt with before she an be truly happy in a relationship. Good luck!
2006-07-12 22:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's still traumatized from her previous relationship & probably uncertain of starting a new one.you might be her rebound guy,who she thinks will help her through her issues.i'd hang out with her as a friend but nothing more until she's emotionally ready.
2006-07-12 22:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by bumblebee_chola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just needs time to think. Give her time and maybe she'll realize she is happier with you. Don't bug her, that will make her want to be away from you longer.
2006-07-12 22:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋