I am so devastated. My friend told me that he saw an ad that my boyfriend had placed on craigslist. Basically, it was ad seeking bi sex with a girl and another guy (I didn't even know he was into girls!!). I didn't believe him (or at least didn't want to), so I went onto craigslist myself just to see... and sure enough, my boyfriend had placed an ad looking for sex. He even put a face photo on the ad (that's how I knew for sure it was him).
I feel so betrayed and devastated. I haven't said anything to him yet (he's still at work). I really love him and I thought he loved me.. I'm insecure enough about our relationship as it is, but I feel like this is just going to destroy me inside.
Should I confront him about it?
How should I confront him?
I need a shoulder to cry on.. Why are men such a.s.s.-holes??
2006-07-12 14:50:42 · 11 answers · asked by Russ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For those of you who are being dickheads in your answers below, I just have to warn you that I am in the mood to rip someone's balls off. So if you want a posterity, please don't f-ck with me.
2006-07-12 15:19:11 · update #1
let him have his bf and u can have me
2006-07-12 14:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should ask him about, but don't be confrontational this might give him the impression you are accusing him of something he might not be engaging in.
Do you know when the ad was placed has it been updated recently, in other words do you know if this is something new or something of the old? Get the facts you know to sound knowledgeable and not like a over zealous teenager!
If you felt insecure before maybe you should take this as a sign if you don't want to do the above and just leave the relationship where it stands now.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-12 21:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by PROMISCUOUS SEDUCTION 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about some of the other above comments, love. This has got to be really tough for you. You shouldn't have to put up with this type of behavior. When both of you entered into this relationship, (I'm assuming) that you both made a commitment to be faithful to one another. He obviously does not honor that commitment. You deserve so much better than wankers like him. Just take some time off for yourself so that you can begin to cope and move on. Don't give up hope. The right guy will come along some day and will sweep you off your feet and carry you off into the sunset! (LOL Hope that lifted your spirits at least a little!).
2006-07-12 23:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely talk to him. He was wrong for doing that. You deserve to be treated a lot better. Just go to him really calmly and sit down and ask him why he did such a thing. It's up to you to decide if you want to stay with him or not. If you wanna talk, you can email me at omitchell04@yahoo.com You can cry on my shoulder. Not all men are a.s.s.h.o.l.e.s. You can find a good one! Don't give up hope!!
2006-07-12 22:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should confront him...at least you will have peace and knowledge. If you don't confront him, you will always wonder- that might hold you from moving on. I know you love him, but irregardless of what his excuse is..if I were you then I would dump him. You should love and respect yourself more then that. Just because he did not share this dream/fantasy/joke or whatever it is with you, should already show you that you two have poor communication or perhaps he does not trust you enough to talk about such intimate things. Move on....=) and enjoy life!!
2006-07-12 21:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by WantToKnow 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you found. Tell him how you feel. You deserve better than being with a cheater. Your lover should always have respect for you and he has demonstrated that he does not, that is enough reason to leave him. It may seem like the end of the world right now, but you will heal. Keep your head up.
2006-07-12 21:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by bebelucy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all i would gather myself (my thoughts, and emotions) i would then try to talk to him and ask what was it that i was not doing for u and try to find out why how long this been going on and if he has already done anything and schedule to see the doctor be careful honey
2006-07-12 21:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by jeremy z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that is in our nature: whether gay or straight. I'm not trying to convert you but women are the way to go. They cheat on men a lot less than we do to them. WAAAY more loyal.
2006-07-12 21:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by B-Dub 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You need to leave him alone about it......its none of ur business what he does in his private time......so what u two are dating....its still his business who he sleeps with....if you're that concerned, talk to him about it.......but it wouldn't be a good idea.
2006-07-12 21:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋
I didn't know gay people cheat!
2006-07-12 21:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by miamite 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋