My boyfriend is Muslim, he loves me dearly, and I am Christian. Although he don't practive really, in Kosovo where he is from, it is important, but not practiced, just no pork. Well he is in love with me, and he wants to marry me, but all along he has not told his parents his TRUE feelings for me, instead, he has made it look like I am a bad person, when I do so much for him, but he did not do it purposely, but only to make himself look good because he did not want to dissapoint his parents. Now he has dug himself a hole, and they would not believe him now if he told them the truth about how much he loves me. I can't speak with them because we don't speak the same language, and he is not open enough WITH THEM to speak with them, but he's open with others. He is afraid his parents will yell at him. We have a great relationship, but his parents have a problem with the religion thing, and age thing, I am 27 female, he is 22. They also think i am bad because he never told the truth.
2006-07-12 14:48:21 · 11 answers · asked by Tracy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you want to be with a man who won't stand up for the woman he supposedly loves? Do yourself a favor and leave this dud before you become his Missus.
2006-07-12 14:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by bebelucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still intimidated by his parents and he has been talking bad about you without knowing it? I don't think you are looking at this clearly. I am sure he does love you and that's great, but the lying has got to stop. He needs to stand up to his parents because they sound like hypocrites. If he is going to marry you then he needs to be all-in or this is just a waste of time. If he can't do this then you need to leave him for a while. Let him choose love or life.
2006-07-12 22:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by Michael T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're always looking out for everyone else, but it's "YOU" who needs the advice. Looks like he has just been telling you what he knows you want to hear and just using you. True love would not fail you or do this to you. Only in the absence of love could this occur. He is also a coward as well as a BULL-SH*TER. It ain't gonna happen,.......whether YOU want it too or not. Best you chock this one up to life and experience, get over it,.... and move on. If he really wanted "YOU" he would have been more up-front with both you and his parents. He wants what you have to offer and he wants to be with and please his parents too. He cannot choose both....and "YOU" will loose. Actions speak louder than WORDS .....it ain't in what he's tell'n ya'.....it's in what he's show'n ya by all the lies and the B.S. I never take to heart what someone says......thats just words. I look at how they act and live....cause that shows the "real" TRUTH. THINK....read between the lines here. I know it's a hard truth to face ( and my intention is not to hurt...cause you have been already) but best you face it before you get hurt worse or let him toy with your emotions and screw up your life more.
YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!!!......Good luck Hon'
2006-07-12 22:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is 22 years old and still afraid that his parents will yell at him for falling in love with a patient and caring woman, then he isn't mature enough or strong enough to be a good husband. Give him the ultimatum..he tell his parents that you are to be his chosen wife and they will respect and honor you...or you will find another man that will give you the love, honor, and respect you deserve.
If he lies to the people he loves the most, his parents, he will also lie to you.
2006-07-12 21:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made so many bad decision that my advice to your boyfriend is to dump you. Your to dumb to breed with.
Wrong age,
wrong religion,
boinking someone that can't stand up there parents
boinking someone that trashes you his parent
You actually THINK this guy loves you -- fool
and you call him a boyfriend .
You must come with a big label on your head that says USE ME!
2006-07-12 21:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being a push-over. He needs to grow some balls and realize what he really wants...to marry you or marry his parents. If he still gives you flack you have to break up with him. That should solve the problem.
2006-07-12 21:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth, just say things have changed. Let them know if you want to, or maybe let them get to know you better so they see themselves that you are a good person.
Best of luck!
2006-07-12 21:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by microsvc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget this one, honey.........Ah, NO.....it will never work!!! These Muslims are invading us and I think they are a suspicious group of people and treat their women like dirt. He has lied to them about you.....he did not stand by you and never will. He defamed and disrespected you.....he is giving you crumbs when you deserve the banquet!!! Get yourself a good American young man.....with a family who speaks English!!!!
2006-07-12 21:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They blame you because he never told them the truth?..hmmm...he should just sit them down and tell them what he lied about...why he told the lies he did...him making you out to be a bad person?...well that really was shameful of him...
2006-07-12 21:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is a tough one but .....there is nothin you can really do its all up to him to be man enough to tell the truth if you love someone you wanna tell the world and sometimes its hard for the world to accept but he needs to realize that he needs to forget the world and think of what he needs he needs to forget what everyone wants and remember what he wants and work his way to it.......
2006-07-12 21:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋