My boyfriend is in californa for the summer, and I am left here working and perparing for college in the fall .he is not working and is not planing to go to college. what I am wandering is should I wate it out with him and hope he changes his mind about working and college or should I just move on?
2006-07-12 14:41:45 · 25 answers · asked by ruby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say move on, why waste your time with someone thats not on the same level as you.
2006-07-12 14:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by T R 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, this is really up to you. What are his long term goals? Does he have any? You can't wait all your life for someone to mature. If he won't grow up and prepare for the future, then dump him. If you keep him and he don't work or get some schooling behind him, then you'll be supporting him. So what do you want to do with your future? Think about all this. Best of luck to you.......
2006-07-12 14:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what he is doing. Is he looking for work, or just not planning on working? If he's looking, then give him a chance. however, if he is not looking then it sounds like you two are on different paths. Eventually him not working will bother you and will become the main part of your fights. I would NOT move in with him, until his life is in order, otherwise very soon, you could end up being his "mother" == a person who takes care of him.
2006-07-12 14:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by english_argie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump him, in MY oppinion. He's probably gonna be a lousy BF. But before that, think about this: Do you REALLY love HIM? How long of time did you spend together, and how much more are you willing to stay with him? Does HE REALLY love YOU? And also think about what is the condition of your relationship (meaning do you guys really hang out with each other, and go on dates often/used to). Good luck!
2006-07-12 14:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by windrunner023 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you care about him? that's the real question. If he is going to stay gone, then you'll really have to decide if he is someone your trying to stay with. And unless he wants to go to college, you can't change his mind. I'm sure he'll have to find a job eventually if he is living on his own.
I'm in college myself and my boyfriend is in cali but he is working there. it's a long distance relationship but we're making it work. it depends on how much you care about him.
2006-07-12 14:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by majaji_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, imo, I would dump him if I were you. I mean, hey, if you were to get married, YOU would have to be the bread provider of the family. Just think, do you really love him? Enough to marry him? Is he The One, the one that God intended for you to be with? If not, there's bigger and better and more motivated fish in the sea.
2006-07-12 15:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by musicismyobsession 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation. Do you have feelings for him or are you just a couple? There are many factors to this decision. If i were you i would have a serious talk with him first and see what he wants to do with his life and if any of his wants have to do with you in his life.. Other than that i don't know what to tell you.
2006-07-12 14:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u love him? How long have u been together? Have u discussed "the future"? How do u really feel about ur relationship? Do u feel the two of u have potential? Have u discussed any of this with him? Good luck!!
2006-07-12 14:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u have the nerve to ask strangers such a huge question, then u must know the answer already. Sounsd like u have a crap relationship.
2006-07-12 14:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't move on if you love him. Help him out if he doesn't want to go to college or motivate him to.
2006-07-12 14:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest in preparation for college, you get some serious help for your grammar and spelling.
2006-07-12 14:45:58 · answer #11 · answered by Pookie's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋