i am 22 weeks preg and my boyfriend just doesnt seem that into me being preg....like he doesnt really care to sit down and look at baby magazines with me and talk about baby stuff all the time...he felt the baby kick once but doesnt really care to lie down and feel him kick all the time....was your husband or boyfriend like this? i know hes excited, is this just a guy thing???
2006-07-12 14:14:40 · 15 answers · asked by dani may 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
With our first child my husband seemed a little disconnected from the situation. He was happy I was pregnanant but to me the baby was real and to him it was something that was going to happen in the future. He didn't get into looking at baby stuff or going to doctor's appointments unless I drug him in. However, when our son was born my husband just started crying and for several days afterwards he was all emotional when it came to the baby. I think for him Matthew wasn't "real" until he saw him. For me I got to "feel" the life in me but he just saw a big belly. With our 2nd and 3rd it was a different story. He had gone through it before he knew what it would be like to see that baby for the first time and how amazing the whole process is and he got into it a lot more and had far more empathy for anything I went through during the pregnancy.
2006-07-12 15:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's exactly how my husband acted. It made me feel like he didn't care about the baby, he didn't even want to go to doctors' appts. to hear his lil heartbeat or anything. I guess it must be just a guy thing, or really depending on the guy. I watch those shows on tlc like babystory, and the dads always seemed so supportive in their wives pregnancies, it was probably just for the cameras! Don't stress about it, I'm sure when the baby is born he will get a reality check, he will realize, wow, I'm really a dad now; men will never understand the bond that a mother has with her unborn child.
2006-07-12 14:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_lolly36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 10:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely..my husband I thought at the time--did not seem to interested in feeling the baby kick, going to the doctors with me, etc..When the baby came--he was wonderful...and still is a great Father. He'll come around
2006-07-12 14:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was extremely excited about both of our children........
but from what I understand, that's kind of an anomaly these days. Most guys don't get interested because they really don't understand what's going on with you and feels a little left out. He should start to come around as you due date gets closer.
If he's still like that after the baby comes.... you might want to get some counseling together.
2006-07-12 14:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal. My husband was the same way. They aren't pregnant, we are.
Don't be surprised if he doesn't get that excited after the baby's born either. Mine didn't get really into parenting until my daughter developed a personality and could smile at him.
2006-07-12 14:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not his first, then most men don't care, they have already been thru it, i know from experience. How you asked him. Maybe he's just nervous or scared and doesn't know how to deal. But the whole "baby" mag. and toys and fufu stuff most guys don't get into it. Most boyfriend made my one and only preg. hell, but after it was done and over with, i told him how him acting made me fell like crap and he felt bad. so just talk about it, he made not be fufu but i'm sure he does care.
2006-07-12 14:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband went to every doctors appointment with me, he read all of the magazines with me, he went shopping for all of the baby stuff. He was so into it. I'm really a lucky woman.
2006-07-12 14:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no my man can't keep his hands off me and is so protective since we found out that, I can't even drive myself to work anymore lol. And he's the one that wants to talk about everything!! But every guy is different and just wait until the first time he holds the baby, everything will change :)
2006-07-12 15:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous #1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be scared. Confront him on this. My husband is absolutely thrilled at us being pregnant and he loves to hear me say the baby is moving or look at the sonogram pic. He tells everyone, complete strangers, that he is going to be a dad. It's so cute to see him strutting and feeling so proud of himself. LOL
2006-07-12 14:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by optimistic_dr3am3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋