How do I maintain a relationship if I'm busy alot and he's busy alot?

Question

I'm in a relationship with a guy and we have been together for a while. But, it's seems to not be working out well. I work alot and I also go to school at night. He also works alot sometime overnight. {He drives a truck}

Answer 1

Your guy must be a short haul driver. My family are all long haul truckers and sometimes nobody sees anybody for two and three weeks at a time. Just be glad he's not gone overnight a lot.

One of the difficulties of a vacant relationship at the very beginning is each one of you don't really get to know the other. You are too busy dealing with the fact the other one isn't there. A close bond has a hard time developing. When things quiet down and you two can be together for an extended period of time, will you be able to tolerate the quirks and tics that are part and parcel of that person?

You are right in wondering if this is going to work out for the both of you, when the times you see each other you are both tired. Do both of you have cell phones? Do you keep in touch, you call him, he calls you?

When you shop, do you pick up his favorite beer or his favorite chips? Does he pick up little things for you? Do you leave little post-it notes on the fridge "Luv Ya Sweetie!" Does he do the same? The Devil really is in the details. Communicate as often as you can, let him know where you are emotionally. Do you get feedback from him on how he feels the relationship is going?

These are just a few things you can do for each other when time is short. We used to call it touching home base. You work as a team to bring it all home. Good Luck and Take Care.

Answer 2

As long as you can see things being somewhat easier and less hectic sometime in the future and you are both patient and really love each other, it can work out. Get together less frequently for now and look to the future.

Answer 3

Make the time together count. Lots of time between the sheets and looking forward to the next encounter. Despite those who will disagree, sex - especially when it can only be done infrequently - can make tough relationships survivable.