My bf and I been going out for about 8 month. I love him so much and he said he loves me and he want to grow old with me, however we are very different my family doesn’t never meet him, the reason is that he smokes stuff!!! He doesn’t have his GED, he works half day and goes home and sleep or hung out with his cousins. I am in school I don’t do stuff I work full time, but the think is I love him so much I just cant leave him alone. Now the problem is that he is changing, he doesn’t treat me right, he use to come and see me at work he doesn’t do that any more, he never give me a gift, and when ever I tell him something he gets mad because he thinks I am trying to tell him what to do, and he will say u just want every thing to be ur way. And today I went to his house to see him and we mad love and after his cousin called him and he had to go pick him up and I ask do u want me to go with u and he said if u want, and I said do u really want me to go and he said not really!! That really made me mad and I said why he said I cant do the things that I want to do around u I cant smoke I cant listen to my music loud. And I said ok bye and he said I will call u letter. Should I ignore him for a couple days, I my being blind how can I make him want me more and leave him alone please help me
2006-07-12 14:03:55 · 20 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's a loser, do you want to be a loser too?
2006-07-12 14:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Firefighter EMT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are normal the problem is you meet the real him most people dont truly show themselves until the relationship is well more serious.Hes at the OMG did I really tell her that am I sure stage. I would kind of let it slide for a week or so and if he doesnt change how he treats you hes not going to cause hes not ready for a commitment. He likes his life the way it is and doesnt want to change. And when all else fails just ask him what he really wants all BS asside if your for the moment of for life....
2006-07-12 21:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by Charity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you are going through almost the exact problem as I went through with my ex. Yes, "EX", and good riddance. This is what will happen if you ignore him for a couple of days. He won't call you, if you don't call him. If he does call you, it's not good news.
So if you want to ignore him, you better intend it to be longer than just a couple days, perhaps a couple decades will do.
To get desire from a man, you have to show them who is boss. That's you sweetie.
You have to be aggressive, take anything he offers you BESIDES SEX. You can get more out of him by resisting. Just make up excuses, like your on your period.
You can do it.
YOU CAN DO WAY BETTER THAN HIM, anways,
=]
If you guys broke up, it won't be like you'll be losing anything, but bad rubbish so just say good riddance.
2006-07-12 21:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When relationships go bad, girls and women tend to think that it's somehow their fault, or because they're not good enough or pretty enough. You are normal because you got mad at the shabby treatment. Everyone has a right to be angry.
He isn't mature enough to appreciate you right now. Give him some time to think it over and get his act together. If he doesn't change, you have to change yourself. Have courage because if your love is true, he will come back to you when he is ready to treat you with respect.
2006-07-12 21:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by Siddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever see him again!
If you care that little about yourself to be with a guy like that, then you need to take a break from all guys! Take up a class, hang out with friends, do some volunteer work, something that will make you feel good about yourself.
2006-07-12 21:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a former "stuff" smoker myself, and I found that the "stuff" only controlled my emotions, made me real irritable, very impatient and only added more problems than I could have counted. My suggestion is to ask him to try to live without the stuff or without you, find out his priorities. My life has only gotten better since I quit the "stuff"... Good Luck
2006-07-12 21:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by Hank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him. He will never change and the stuff he smokes will only make it more worse as time goes on. He will start to pull you down little by little. Good Luck!
2006-07-12 21:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your boyfriends name robert or beto? He sounds just like my niece's husband! He treats her the same way and goes to his cousins all the time! It is obvious that he is cheating on her- chances are Cousin is a code word for girlfriend!
2006-07-12 21:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please focus on school. Sounds like he doesn't want you to do better for yourself. Leave him alone for your sake. If you feel this miserable then you already know the answer to you own question.
2006-07-12 21:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so large your question,but i think writting it's a good way for expressing our feels. Good luck with your relation and if he is not for you their will be other boys.
2006-07-12 21:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Brandon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dump him. He sounds like a real big looser. I think you'd be better off without him.
2006-07-12 21:08:56 · answer #11 · answered by ricardoaz2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋