We've been together for over 1 yr n planning to get married, He's caring & cheerful but often times he cheats on me, he'll abandon me for other girls but he'll always come back begging me to accept him but for the love we've shared together, I always forgive him but recently he hurts me so much that it was so glaring to friends & relatives that they warned me not to have anything to do with him but he never stopped calling, begging and making promises as usual that we'll get married. So many people are now involved and I don't know what to do. But I love him and we both enjoy every moment we shared together (I live far away from him & we only get to see each other twice in a month i.e forthnightly) Please advice me cos I'm 34 yrs and I wouldn't want any man to waste my time.
2006-07-12 13:53:13 · 19 answers · asked by vic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are joking, right? You are wasting your time with this loser who can't keep his dick out of other females. Drop him like a bad habit; run for your life; you will never be happy with him. Find a guy who is nice for real; one that doesn't cheat on you.
2006-07-12 13:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear he is wasting your time, what makes you think that when you get married that he will change. I am sure that if he cheats on you now and hurts you now that he will continue to do so in the future as long as you keep taking him back. Girl he is not the only man out there, you need to find someone that is going to respect you and love you like you deserve to be loved.
2006-07-12 21:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time with him. Just one time of cheating should have you sending him out the door. Sounds like he has some serious issues with commitment, and even beyond that, why would you want to be married to someone who thinks it's ok to cheat on you and lie to you? I think he thinks he can just do whatever he wants, and by taking him back, you are condoning that, Why would you want to be married to a man you knew even before marriage was a cheater? Is this who you want to have children with and start a family. If he can't even be faithful to you now, imagine what is going to happen when you have a family. I say, let him go, and get yourself someone better!
2006-07-12 20:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem as you. He was my classmate and used me a lot, untill my best friend started to tell me things that he said about me, and the way he hits on girls when I part from him. You'll just have to dump him, for he seems to be a great asshole, depending on the fact that you'll forgive him.
you are still young and you are a woman that depends on her own forces. Get rid of him, 'cause you can find a man that trully loves you, and if you get married with him, that won't make him stopwith the cheating :)
Take care...
2006-07-13 04:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by disturbed_ghost25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you say this man is caring & cheerful ? if he was caring he wouldnt go behind your back & i bet he is cheerful because you keep taking him back. & he will find that funny. but your 34 love not 18. if he cant be faithful to you now he NEVER will. i wouldnt trust him as far as i could throw him. please dont let him keep making you look like an idiot in frount of family & friends get out NOW why you still can think of the future do you really want to be married then in your 40s or 50s end up divorced with everyone saying WELL WE DID TELL YOU BUT YOU TOOK NO NOTICE.
2006-07-12 21:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok honey ... if u can trust my words ...
first of all ... he cheated u ... not once but many times ...
second ... u r not yet married ...
third u r about to get married when he cheated again ...
i dont know how u trust this guy anymore .... it might sound a lot hursh but its true ... he will cheat u again after u marry him ... maybe all ur life ... now can u live with that ??? can u make sure that he wont run away or he wont cheat on u anymore ... and if u can live on that ... then u can marry him ... but this guy isnt trust worthy ... ok one time u can take it as a mistake ... but over and over again ... no way i cud trust anyone like that in my life ... but its strictly ur decision ... so u hav to make it ... u r 34 .... so u shud be cautious about picking ur life partner ... that guy shud be sumone u trust ... now the question is can u trust this guy anymore ??? can u make him stay with u and not cheat on u ??? its ur decision so make it and make it fast ....
2006-07-12 21:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by Ahbab Da Coolest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm sorry you have to hear this from total strangers, but i think the general consensus is correct, you should leave him. tis better to feel the pain of leaving him now, than marrying him and have him cheat on you for the rest of your lives. its hard, in no way will any of it be easy, so make sure your surronded by people you trust and love if you do follow this advice, because you will need their support and guidance. but remember one thing, the decision is finally yours, you are the one who must live with this, so go with what you wan to do.
2006-07-12 22:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by lavampdarkblade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly don't believe this is true love! for one thing u barely see eachother so maybe thats why u enjoy every moment! but the main thing...HE CHEATS! can u b with someone when ur constantly worried that hes screwin other girls?!? i know i never could b! do what u want...but i wouldn't suggest stayin with him and especially marrying him!!!
2006-07-12 21:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by kayleigh corinne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not true love. cuz if he loved u he would shut the hell up and wouldnt cheat on u period. i say u dump him. exspecially if u dont live with him he could be doing anything just like u. dump him like last months shoes hard and cold. Theres some1 better out there 4 u.
2006-07-12 20:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by Alanna s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not true love, it is shared love.
If this is OK with you, then get past the hurting bit and enjoy.
If you are not OK with sharing him, then toss him.
Do not expect him to change.
2006-07-12 20:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by PlayTOE- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋