my gf n i hav been datin for about 4months, i hav been givin her a present every month, is it too much? others tell me to stop n wait to celebrate our 6th month then to buy her sumthi to make it more special coz if i keep doin it it wont be dat special anymore...should i stop? also i've never gotten anythin from her, i dun mind but dats dat mean she doesnt like me n doesnt care for this relationship? or guys r guys suppose to buy them gifts? yea is my 1st relationship plz gimme some tips
i appreciate it
2006-07-12 13:46:46 · 14 answers · asked by Loko 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Too much! You'll start becoming predictable; she'll be expecting things every month. That can get old quick. Also, you should ask yourself WHY you're getting her things once a month. Is it because you're afraid of losing her if you don't? That doesn't say much on your part. Honestly, us girls like it a hell of a lot more if you give us gifts for special occasions and when we least expect it.
2006-07-12 13:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by MEB 3 · 11⤊ 2⤋
Slow down with the presents. It is true that they will not mean as much if they are given all of the time. When you give a gift, it should come from the heart and have meaning to both of you. A flower once a month, would mean I remember this day and it has a special meaning for me. A bracelet, ring, earrings etc. once a month may mean I am needy, desperate and if you ever leave me I will probably end up stocking you. Though the gifts are nice, she may have a hard time respecting you.
2006-07-12 20:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be spontaneous, not predictable. sometimes gestures are more impressive than actual gifts so do both. do little things like leaving a post-it note on her computer screen before you leave without her seeing you. she'll appreciate it later when she sees it. buy her a small box of chocolates for no reason other than because it's a tuesday. surprise her with a planned massage complete with oil, candles and her favorite beverage. if the spicy chicken burrito from taco bell is her absolute favorite meal, surprise her with a bag full of burritos for lunch one day (okay, maybe just a couple of them). when you're watching a movie at home together, fill her drink when it's low without asking her. i could go on forever.
the point is that you have to recognize the power of a caring gesture as much as that of a gift. and your gifts don't have to be so formal. stop with the monthly ritual you started. mix it up. spread it out. keep her guessing. and make it your goal to always find at least one way to make your girl smile every day. do this and you'll be golden.
2006-07-12 21:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by yer daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ur being a little too nice.. I would say she's lucky becuase i would love too have a guy who bought me gifts every month but it is too much. Wait 4 the important months. It will be special to her. U also should sit down w/ her and talk to her about ur feelings and see if she feels the same way!!
2006-07-12 20:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually it's the girls who push the month~Aversery but I've never seen a guy to it. An answer to your questions is it is to much. I say you wait for your year aniversery if anything because celebrating every month makes it less special. The reason she probably isn't getting you presents every month is because she can't afford them and when you keep giving them to her it makes her feel like the bad guy because she can't get you anything. That's just my opinion but if I had a boyfriend who did that it would drive me up a wall...
2006-07-12 20:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop smothering her with gifts. Why do you think anniversary and birthday gifts are so special? They're a rare treat. Don't ever lose the mystery and intrigue or the relationship will die. And learning to form a coherent written sentence would help alot...
2006-07-12 20:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by buddhasmash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice to give presents to your girl, but, I would have to aggree that every month is too much...I'm not sayin quit buyin stuff for her, like goin out to eat, or a coke from the store..just don't give special presents so much...because soon you'll run out of stuff to get her and well imagine how po'd she'd be then.
ps...besides how will you know if your caring for you is sincere or just liking the stuff that you buy her.
2006-07-12 20:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in a co-dependent relationship. Your needs are propelling you. It is almost as if you can't help yourself. Many times we think we love someone when what it really is, is our needs crying out to be met. Women attracted to such men usually like to reject and alternately take them back. They like to feel the power over such a boyfriend because they know that no matter how much they torment him, he will always come back. They feel fulfilled somehow.
You on the other hand will wonder how anyone can be that cruel. You won't be free until you no longer respond to her wiles.
2006-07-12 21:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're in love, even a bracelet made of daisy is perfect.
Try to express your affection in a less materialistic way.
This is because your girlfriend will take your gifts for granted and
expect more and more up to the point where you end up buying her diamonds and exotic vacations.
2006-07-12 20:53:22 · answer #9 · answered by Siddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, its too much. every 6 months would be fine, or even every year.
Shes lucky to have you, ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years and ive never gotten an anniversary present from him lol.
2006-07-12 20:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋