We've been together for over 1 yr n planning to get married, He's caring & cheerful but often times he cheats on me, he'll abandon me for other girls but he'll always come back begging me to accept him but for the love we've shared together, I always forgive him but recently he hurts me so much that it was so glaring to friends & relatives that they warned me not to have anything to do with him but he never stopped calling, begging and making promises as usual that we'll get married. So many people are now involved and I don't know what to do. But I love him and we both enjoy every moment we share together (I live far away from him & we only get to see each other twice in a month i.e forthnightly) Please advice me cos I'm 34 yrs and I wouldn't want any man to waste time.
2006-07-12 13:42:50 · 12 answers · asked by vic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It may be true love on your part but to him your just another girl to have a good time with. It's a strain in the first place because you live so far apart and every time he made these promises he just breaks them again...What makes you think he's going to change? You don't have to listen to me but I say you dump him and find someone who really cares about you.
2006-07-12 13:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by Melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you can't put up with it any longer. He isn't going to change - it's a fallacy that a girl can change a man - and he'll wander just as much after you are married.
Maybe you do enjoy each other's company - just think that he also enjoys other girls' company maybe as much as yours. He may be a good man but he is not a one-woman guy, so you have to take it or leave it according to how you feel about that.
2006-07-12 21:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm i would think not from him.... i guess YOU love him if you take all that abuse from him.... i don't believe guys cant be faithful.. they can if they want to... if you marry him you must be prepared to live the rest of your life with a guy that cheats and thinks that begging can solve everything for him.... im sorry to put it this way...... but once a cheater always a cheater is very true...
having a good time is great... but are the good times more than the bad or the other way around??? find yourself a guy that truly deserves you......
I was once with a guy like that and it broke my heart but i left him...... soon enough came a great guy who's now my boyfriend and it´s the best thing that's ever happened to me. :)
Good Luck!!
2006-07-12 20:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Carolight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to burst your bubble but this dude sounds like a waste of time. Open your eyes--he cheats on you! When you are married, he will continue to cheat on you. Dump this loser and find someone who will be loyal to you and you alone. You can obviously do better. Wake up and smell the coffee--your friends and relatives are right to warn you about this guy!
2006-07-12 20:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you enjoy your time with him, but take a look at what he's doing to you, because if you marry him, it WILL be the way you spend the reat of your life. He will always be sorry, but he'll do it again anyway!
2006-07-12 20:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by macy5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should dump him and how you should go about doing this is not YOU do the dumping but HIM. Make yourself soooo smelly/ugly/creeppy/stuff hahahahah yea so do that =] EXAMPLES::::Shave your head dont brush your teeth get dreadlocks braid your under arm hair ( when it gets long enough ) hhahahahahahaha hah
you should todolee do it cuz its cool and the right thing to do and you are cool when you DO IT!! i did it so you know it will turn out well =P
2006-07-12 20:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats on you, he's not worth the mud on your shoes. My advice is too go and find a new fish. There are pleanty in the sea. I wish you all the luck in the world. It is defiatley not "True Love"
2006-07-12 20:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by Derek B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can answer that after reading the first 2 sentences.....NO. If he really loved you, he'd respect you enough not to cheat.
2006-07-12 20:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by MEB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this: Can I see myself with ANYONE other than this guy? If your answer is yes, then I think I hear wedding bells....
2006-07-12 20:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by PrettyKitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not .........i didnt even have to read the whole quetion for that one . Look he doesnt love you inless you honestly think he has changed , but only you would know
2006-07-12 20:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by Melanie<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋