We've been together for over 1 yr n planning to get married, He's caring & cheerful but often times he cheats on me, he'll abandon me for other girls but he'll always come back begging me to accept him but for the love we've shared together, I always forgive him but recently he hurts me so much that it was so glaring to friends & relatives that they warned me not to have anything to do with him but he never stopped calling, begging and making promises as usual that we'll get married. So many people are now involved and I don't know what to do. But I love him and we both enjoy every moment we share together (I leave faraway from him & we only get to see each other twice in a month i.e forthnightly) Please advice me cos I'm 34 yrs and I wouldn't want any man to waste time.
2006-07-12 13:40:50 · 19 answers · asked by vic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. If it is true love, he should be faithful to you in the 1st place.
2006-07-12 13:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by Poohpiggy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not, girl you can do so much better. You deserve a man that treats you like a queen and doesn't cheat on you and has the up most respect for you. Love shouldn't put you through hard times like that. You're 34 years old you should still me caught up in childish games with little boys if you get what I'm saying.
Hope you find yourself a real Man!!!
2006-07-12 13:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by CPSweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wasting your time! He probably loves you but what is love? Love means different things to different people. It all depends on a persons character. If, him coming home to you when he pleases, is the kind of love you want, go for it.
Although i imagine you deserve so much more.
I know it probably don't seem like it but there are a lot of great guys out there. Imagine while your wasting your time on this guy your soul mate is out there wandering where you are . Tell yourself ( I am Important! I deserve the best! ).
2006-07-12 14:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by peace(n)love* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny.....Let me tell you, I had a similar situation, he always cheated on me but I realized it after one year of relantionship. He used to promise me that I was his only & true love, all the time! Desesperate, I contacted his previous girlfriend, who confirmed to me that the cheated on her also. As in your case, the time we spent together was good but, PLS! don't expect him to change. I dumped him and, believe me, I don't regret! I'm so much proud of my decision and now, that the pain and confusion are gone, I see the things very clearly: this man didn't deserve at all. Keep your love & tender for someone else who really loves you. Don't waste your time and your love with him. If you accept this now you will suffer this forever! DUMP HIM NOW!
2006-07-12 14:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by ANTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I would usually tell people to give there spouse another chance. But, you say he often cheats on you. You to stop wasting your time and his and get a new man.
That's the way it is!!
2006-07-12 13:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your in love if you keep takin him back after all those times he cheated on you..........and you want to marry him...........so you have to be in love if you are going to marry a cheater. I think it'll do some good if you talk to him about it. But you need to really open up and tell him how that makes you feel.
2006-07-12 13:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by Demajae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not true love, it is shared love.
It is a relationship that is very open as far as he is concerned.
If you accept him, accept that he is going to have others and get past that bit hurting.
If that is not enough for you then don't accept him as a partner.
If you are OK with it then enjoy.
Do not expect him to change.
2006-07-12 13:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by PlayTOE- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun',he doesn't deserve u but he does loves u.here's wat i think.i think when u know that he cheated on u once again leave him,and by leave him i mean for a loooooooooong time until he drewls to get u back to him,and yet u'll be back (bec u love him) but on conditions and tough ones plz to see if her really would do anything for u.let him pay for everytime he breaks ur heart.u don't deserve all this ****,u r a much better person if it weren't for love i would've told u to forget about him coz yes he's wasting ur time
2006-07-12 13:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not true love, I just made it through two lines of what you were saying and I know it, anyone who is willing to abandon you and go cheat on you does not love you, he is using you.
2006-07-12 13:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. No 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I'm sorry but that doesn't sound like true love to me. I advise that you quit taking him back. He won't change if you get married. Find a guy who will be true to you.
2006-07-12 13:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny no woman deserves to be treated like that i say leave him cause hes just goin to keep doin it and make him learn what he had and what hes loosing there is another guy out there for you that wont hurt you all you have to do is look
2006-07-12 13:45:49 · answer #11 · answered by lovehappie03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋