She's been stressed out so much lately and she's sick but she's so adamant to want to go back and visit the Philippines again. She said she just wanted to relax. But I don't really feel good to let her go back. No one can go with her because I have to take care of my other siblings. I don't want anything to happen to her there. Should I let her go? Because it seems like she really wants to and I can't stop her.
2006-07-12 13:31:55 · 20 answers · asked by dewdropinn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you should let her go back and visit. It may be a big part of why she's stressed and then not feeling well. The visit with her family might be just the medicine she needs.
2006-07-12 13:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that your mother knows more about the PI than you do. But I find it hard to see a mother leaving her children, as you say you have to "take care of your siblings" while she is gone. Do you think that she would go and not come back or something? Is the very very sick physically and wants to see the place where she was born and raised one more time? And to visit her parents/brother/sisters ? Why not take all of the "siblings" with you? Where is your father? Can your mothers relatives come here for a visit instead?
Good luck, hope everything works out well for you.
2006-07-12 20:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by InnerCircle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i see your concern....like all places in the world some places are good and some are not....how sick is your mom? how old...is there anyone that can go with her?maybe family friend...... that would be a long trip there...my dad too had wanted to travel back to the Philippines but he was unable to. it was sad that he could not go but he excepted it....well let her know of your concern for her health...that you worry about her being ill and traveling such a long way...some places don't even have good medical help...in case she was to need medical attention. maybe she will consider waiting till she feels better.
well good luck...what part of the Philippines?...
2006-07-12 21:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't stop her she is a grown woman and maybe this trip will do her some good and she will come back to you refreshed and a new woman. Let her know you don't want her to go but you respect her enough not to try to stop her and support her choice and tell how much you love her and how much you want her home with you.Tell her to have an awesome time get relaxed and hurry back.
2006-07-12 20:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by aenease5974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you must be sure that your mother is mentally competent to travel alone. If that is the case...then you really have no choice. You have to let her go...this is what will make her happiest. I know you want to protect her and fear for her safety. You must however, honor her wishes and allow her this passion. The other alternative is for someone to go with her.
Be very diligent in your planning and do everything you can to make things as safe and easy for her as you possibly can. You may even want to give her a list of things she should be aware of and caution her to be very careful at all times. Let her know how important it is to follow the guidelines of the list so she can be more knowledgeable. Let her know how hard it is for you to let her travel alone but because you love her so, reluctantly you will. Get her to promise you she will be careful and to keep in contact with you as much and as frequent as possible.
Give her your blessings.
2006-07-12 21:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you concerned because your mother is elderly? I can understand that but you should just let her go,this may be her only chance of going before she leaves this earth. It would make your mother very happy and I'm sure you have plenty of family there that will make sure she is alright. She could write you regularly to let you know how things are going. Maybe a vistit to the Phillippines is just the thing she needs to make her feel better.
2006-07-12 20:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter how long some one has been away from home they ALLWAYS want to go back even if its just to see how the family is spend some time with them. its not often you get time to do that. if your mom has the chance then i would let her go. nothing should happen to her if she is with family. BUT lets say it did. would you want her to just stay there with you or to fulfil a dream ? only you know how long it is since she last saw her family. hope this helps you.
2006-07-12 20:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is an adult and has a right to make her own decisions. If she wants to visit her family in the Philippines that is her right. You have no right to make her decisions for her.
2006-07-12 20:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by misscatitude2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, please dont take this the wrong way...I don't know how sick your mother is...but here is my answer. I think she wants to "relax" in a way of saying good bye to her family...I think if you let her go, you should go with her...I think it may be your last time to do much of anything with your mother.
Good luck with this....I know how hard it must be for you.
2006-07-12 21:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by hannah062199 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. her family will take care of her when she is back Philippines. So don't worry.
2006-07-12 20:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by PaperCloUDs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋