Basically about 4 months ago i found out that my first love was cheating on me with his on and off girlfriend of a year. We went togther for five months and i had no idea that he was still see her the only thing i knew was that they were exs. He truly hurt me, but i really just can't to seem to let go. We've talked and like a fool i forgave him(after awhile though). I told him we shouldn't really be friends cause it hurts me to see him with this other girl. But he kinda made it a point that we stay in contact. I told him there must be something missin in his relationship with this girl cause he went elsewhere lookin and found me. When we talk on the phone he always asks who i'm dating and is always bringin up the fun time we had together as a couple. Once he even asked when the next time we would hang out...but he know that i'm not down cause he has a girl already. He confusing me cause he acting like he wants to be with me but he aint leavin this girl. What is goin on?
2006-07-12 13:23:56 · 25 answers · asked by BettyBoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he might just want to stay friends with you
2006-07-12 13:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-18 23:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience, if he's reminising about your past and wants to stay close and is very interested in your love life. He's keeping tabs on you because he still has feelings for you. He has feelings for his current gf too so he's just trying to see if he can get play from you as well. If you keep it strictly friends then he will not have any choice but to abide by that. If he crosses the line just back away because the only thing that will come of the situation is drama and you don't need that.
2006-07-12 13:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by luvlinubian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this guy to quit talking to you. Tell him you have a new bf and he's not happy with him talking to you. This guy sounds like he's keeping as many options open as possible. Don't let yourself be an option. He's a lying cheat, and will always be so.
2006-07-12 13:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an ex who acts just like that! I guess he wants his cake and eat it too. He wants both of you. He picked the other girl for some kind of "personal security" reason. But he likes you too and can't completely let go! Just cut him off, It's hella hard but you gotta do it. You will find somebody better who deserves you! He does not!
2006-07-12 13:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by ♥*´`*ღPink♥*´`*•.¸¸ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-28 03:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, in my opinon, he doesnt want to let go of u for the simple fact of that u guys have histroy together, yes he deos have a girlfriend but u that doesnt mean u have to stop being friends. granted he did cheat on u , but that doesnt mean that he didnt care about u.u should not give him the cold shoulder if u were togther for that long u might just want 23 give it a shot of being friends again. thats how alot of friendships/relationships are broken down and people all around are hurt. u will just have to grit ur teeth and go forward maybe if u hang out w/ the g/f of his u will get over the possibale terratroul feeling u have . dont worry it will come to pass eventually.
2006-07-12 13:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by chrissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM FAST. He is not ready for a relationship and is just playing with you. He does not want the girl he is with so he is playing back and forth between the two of you. When he finally leaves this girl he will find another and another and another. Sorry there is men like that out there. They have no conscience or consideration for others feelings.
2006-07-12 13:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like to keep you confused...period. Best advice I can give you is that if he lied or cheated once...he'll do it again IF given the chance. I had a true love in high school that I dated for 4 yrs, he left me for someone else and married her. 19 yrs later he came back into my life and left me totally devastated again...but he had "kept in touch" on and off over the years just to see how I was doing. I gave him the chance of coming back into my life all those years later and he hurt me (and my son) when he went back to his wife and FORGOT to tell me.So my advice to save you heartache...is to tell him to take a hike...you'll find someone more deserving of your time. Once a liar and a cheat...always one. Good luck! (Best ending to this is...I sent his wife dates and times he had been with me after I found out he had gone back "home". She fried his *** in court and took him for everything. SO...the LOSER LOST) :)
2006-07-12 13:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too!!! My advice is to not only not be friends with him but move on. You seem like a sweet girl that can do so much better. If he realizes what he lost by going back to this girl than that is his problem!!!! You have to look out for #1
2006-07-12 13:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may be leaving your heart open for betrayal again. He is testing both of you and leaving you out of the choice factor. Help him to make the decision ,don't leave it in his hands. Forgive Me if I have trespassed.
2006-07-12 13:32:41 · answer #11 · answered by writer05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋