I constantly recieve attention and comments because of my looks. But I can't help but feel that even some of my guy friends don't give a crap about what I'm really about. How am I suppose to know what their true intentions are with me as far as our friendship? Theres allot more to me than my face and body!!!!
2006-07-12 13:21:16 · 25 answers · asked by macy5 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not that they can't hold a conversation with me, or that thay don't really know me,it's that I am a caring sensitive person who treats my friends with respect, and I just want to know why they don't ever notice these things about me!
2006-07-12 13:40:18 · update #1
an intelligent question from an intelligent woman . now i am amazed.just keep looking for a guy who thinks that everyword you utter is poetry.and they should look as though they are really interested.but try not to sleep with any of them till they prove they are interested in your mind.for love of the mind is greater than physical lust.
2006-07-12 13:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by curtismarsch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the attention honey and learn to use it to your advantage. It's a dog eat dog world afterall. Be free, have fun! Once you get to know a guy, if they love you, I'm sure it will be for YOU. Guys don't just stay with an attractive woman for their face and body. I swear. It might be what initially attracts them but if they stick around, it'll be because of you and your inner beauty, nothing else...but yeah, enjoy the attention even from the shallow. Make true friends with those worth keeping, but enjoy the attention you get. Have fun honey!!!!!
2006-07-12 20:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real friends will be there for you when you are up, down, beautiful or ugly, healthy or sick. Real friends will not take advantage of you when you are both out drinking, they won't play games, and they won't drag you down. They will laugh with you and not at you. They will be there to cry on their shoulders even when there is something that they would rather be doing - whether it be the Super Bowl or the World Series - or out drinking with the guys. When you look at a real friend - you shouldn't think of what sex they are - you should look at the person they are.
2006-07-12 20:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by bigej65 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have this issue but now I'm old enough that it isn't such a problem anymore, more a wish.
If these guys don't want to carry on a meaningful conversation with you, gently push them out of your life.
By "meaningful", I don't mean "talking about girl stuff". I mean talking about what's on the news, the TV, in the paper; things that are happening in the world and in the lives of mutual friends; your views on politics and world affairs. If all he wants to talk about is shallow, superficial stuff, he needs to be out of your life, because he has no interest in you beyond shallow, superficial things - like your face and body.
2006-07-12 20:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by zartsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were true friends the face and body would not matter!!! THey would like you for what is on the inside and the kind of person you are. If they seem to only care about how you look than those are the kind of friends not worth having.....
2006-07-12 20:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not saying that you need to get dirty or anything. But just purposely be a little plainer and "duller" and see if their reactions would change. If they care is your look, when they see that you don't really fix up yourself and all that, they may go look for someone else. If they care beyond your look, they will stick around.
Or the other thing is, try to get to know them and ask them something that will make them think but be yourself at the same time. In time you will be able to tell which one of them is for real and which one of them only want you for your look.
2006-07-12 20:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by knitting guy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends know your fave movies. Your likes & dislikes. Your ebb & flow. Fakes are just there to be seen w/ you, or maybe wait til you're addled by alcohol or such, so they can attempt luck. Sit back, and watch them. See how they react when you are REAL. Who's just a phone call away when stuff comes down? ...These are your friends.
2006-07-12 20:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by longhair140 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend who is a model and she has the same problem. but one day she found out how be showing how smart she is and how she can out wit a man and show how strong she is on the inside most guys don't see that but when you find the right guy he will notes and ask you all the right question . and that man may be the one.
2006-07-12 20:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time Guys pay attention to how you act and how you treat people surrounding you more than how you look.
2006-07-12 20:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by Duke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you can tell what their true intentions are is to spend time with them, no sex, and see if they continue to want to be around you, and listen to you, and care about your feelings.
2006-07-12 20:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋