doyou think divorce can cause a child permenent problems lke depression or other mental issues?

Answer 1

It's hard to say because if the marriage is abusive it's not good to stay in a abusive marriage either. Maybe you can go for counseling.

Answer 2

In some cases, yes. My aunt and her ex-husband were married for years, had two children, waited years more, then had a couple more kids. The two older kids were in junior and senior in high school by the time their parents split up and they handled it far better than their younger siblings, especially their then-two year old sister. She has had numerous emotional problems every since which has impacted her family as well as her relationships with others and her school work, too. She has been in and out of counseling, has been on medication, and been in legal trouble.

Everyone's different so you can't say for certain if a divorce will cause mental issues for a child. If, for example, the parents are able to foster a neutral relationship and the non-custodial parent is extremely involved in the child's life then the child may be okay.

But, you have to think about what is *truly* better for the child. Would you rather get a divorce and try to help the child through whatever emotional difficulties there might be, or do you want to stay in a rotten marriage where the child is subjected to visions of constant arguing, sadness, abuse, etc., which can cause emotional disturbances, too.

Answer 3

It's a traumatic event for kids, but if the parents stay involved with them and talk to the kids about it and let the kids express their feelings, they can get through it in tact. Kids need to be told, often, that it's not their fault, they didn't cause it and they couldn't prevent it. They also need to know that they are not alone and that other kids go through the same thing, it doesn't make them different or broken or bad. The parents also need to keep all conversations and fights regarding the divorce away from the kids, out of earshot. If the kids ask what's wrong, tell the truth without any details, like I am mad right now and disagree about something with your father/mother. Don't hide your feelings or say nothing is wrong because they learn from that and will do the same thing. Tell them it's okay and everything will work out. Because it will. And if they want to hug you to make you feel better let them. And always talk positively about the other parent. Even if the only nice thing you can think of to say is that the other parent loves you (meaning still loves the kids). Don't ever ever make the kids feel guitly about loving or caring about the other parent. And don't cringe when they talk about the other parent, how great they are or what they did when visiting or whatever. That's all I can think of for now.

Answer 4

They say, the age of a child matters in this case; it matters to a point. Of course a 6 month old baby wouldn't know much of whats going on. The problem of wheres my 'other' parent resurfaces later on in their lives no matter how old the child might be. Sometimes it's actually even better if the child was lets say, 18 when his or her parents get divorced. Because then they know whats going on AND they know WHY.

They also say that girls tend to go look for effection from boys more if she did not have a dad at home for her to confide to.
My dad lives in China, My mom lives in the United States. I have not seen my dad in over 5 years now. They are not divorced legally but as you can tell, it's pretty much there already. I agree a bit with this theory. I didnt realize it at first but i do now. A lot of my girl friends are the same way. Maybe it's coincidence that my girlfriends who DO have a dad at home stays single at times and the ones who don't, i've never really seen them single, they're always with someone or going out with some body. As for boys, what they actually need is someone they look up to and follow, most of the time it would be their father. But for guys without their fathers, i believe as long as they find some one who's there for them and who they can trust, it's gonna be alright.


My point is, it really depends on the child him/herself. Whether they will accept their parents divorce. Many come to realize later on when they get married and when they're problems with their significant others start bubbling up. They'll know then it's not always easy. Whether they'll repeat the mistake or learn from it, is the question.

No mental issues, but depression, maybe.. but it's not gonna be permenant.

Answer 5

Speaking from experience, divorce can be very difficult for children to understand, I was ten when my parents were divorced. I kept blaming myself even though I didn't know why. After the divorce it was even harder for me to accept my parents moving on with other people. But I came around eventually when my parents assured me that their love for me had not changed. They kept a healthy relationship, which I think helped me and my siblings very much. If they were fussing and fighting I think I would have taken it really badly. I never gave up on love, I am now 21, happily married, with a college degree and a five week old. So it really depends upon the parents who are being divorced to make the process smooth and peaceful for everyone.

Answer 6

My parents are divorced and I'm fine. I know many other people who have divorced parents that have no problems. It depends on the child and the way the parents present the divorce to him or her. It is important not to influence the child to take sides if there were problems in the marriage. And it is also important to not talk about your ex badly around the child. Let the child develope their own opinions. Remember, it is very easy to influence a child... you may not even realize you're doing it.

Answer 7

Yes I think if it is a bad divorce and parents using the child against one another and the child seeing constant arguing,it surely won't be good for the child!People should realize that a child loves both parents.The parents find a new partner and then they are "usually " happy,but the child only has one mom and one dad!Parents that put down the other parent in front of or to their child should be charged with abuse!

Answer 8

A relationship gone bad between parents causes damage well before the divorce happens.

99 percent of the time parents act worse than children in a divorce and the only person(s) who get hurt are the children.

Answer 9

well i have a cousin and his parents go divorced when he was 5 or 6 and he was already hipper but when they got divorced he seemed to get worse, and know since hes gotten older i think he has gotten over the hipper part but seems to be different in the way that he isn't seeing them together and they are both remarried, so my answer is that it may change them dramatically they will always want to know why mommy and daddy are not together and sometimes they start to blame themselves, i think the couple should think it over and see if they could work it out and stay together for the child sake

Answer 10

Yes, absolutely. I know that my parents' divorce did a lot of damage to me that I'm still trying to overcome. It's my opinion that kids in the middle of a divorce should have some special attention or intervention to help get through it.

Answer 11

i think it is possible that a divorce could cause some mental issues, but having divorced parents is better than having parents that constantly argue and cant get along. in my opinion, 2 happy homes is better than 1 unhappy home.