Alright the thing is... I am in a preety good relationship with a cute boy. I don't know if he is going to fast or if I'm to slow. I worry way to much so please help me.
2006-07-12 12:30:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to move at your own pace.. No one can really tell you what you feel comfortable doing. He will respect your wishes if he cares about you, if not, you have entire world of hot men to indulge in- be picky!
2006-07-12 12:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by localmeg 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
We-e-l-l. I am a bit old fashioned I guess. I think you need to be good friends before you go any further. Once you are good friends then you can decide if you want to commit to each other. Once you commit to each other(and by this I mean Marriage) then comes the time for sex. Too many people jump into bed because they are in lust. True love takes time, effort, and BRAINS. It should be labeled lust at first sight, not love at first site. That is what it is, but it gets romanticized because people start out in lust and, when they get to know each other, fall in love. Then they say, "Oh, I loved so and so from the moment I saw him." But if they could look back objectively, they didn't.
Also, if he is in a hurry, then he just wants in your pants. Sorry, but it's true. If you have a guy friend, ask him. He will agree with me. So use your brain. If it feels too rushed to you...IT IS.
2006-07-12 12:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by songbird092962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the two of you have good communication and you feel comfortable around him then that is a good start. If you feel he is moving too fast tell him. Tell why you feel this way and what can be done to make it better. Also ask him if he feels that you are moving too slow. You may just be worrying for nothing. Best of Luck to you.
2006-07-12 12:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by mandmhill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go as fast as the two of you are comfortable to go. You should take some time, assess where you think you should be versus where you are, and then tell him about that position, and also let him tell you. See if you can find a happy medium if the ideas are that different, otherwise you will find yourself going at a happy, comfortable pace that the two of you can deal with.
2006-07-12 12:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow. If you are in a good relationship, there is no rush. And you should worry. This is your life you are living. Regardless of common belief, you body is sacred, not to be given freely for someone else's sexual release. You do not say if this is your 2nd or 22nd date or if you've been dating for 6 months or what. Honor your body and protect it.
2006-07-12 12:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a little young, plus you really should use spell check; DON'T DO IT....Wait until your heart patters; when just holding hands or sitting on a blanket having a nice picnic is FUN; look into different eyes and see what's out there before you throw your "special first time moment" away on some fly-by-night, hormonal male creature; They'll all try and get into your pants! That's their "thing";
2006-07-12 12:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont worry let things move at there own pace... if you worry everything will go down hill... Just take one step at a time...
2006-07-12 12:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by nahN2do 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel pressured into doing things it's going too fast. If you're bored, it's going too slow. Just trust your instincts and you should be fine. good luck!
2006-07-12 12:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and if things are going too fast or too slow, you'll know. Good Luck!!:)
2006-07-12 12:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by MADRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever let someone talk you into doing something you aren't ready for. Go at your own pace. If he cares about you, he'll wait.
2006-07-12 12:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋