As i said i'm a dad, but the thing i don't understand is i'm on disabilty and when i went to paternity court (not because i wanted it but because the mother wanted it) the judge asked how much did i make monthly. I told her and she asked how did i make it on such little income, i told her because of disability checks that i recieced. So court ended without her saying anything to me about me having to pay child support, but she did ask was my son supposed to be getting something off of my disability i said yes. Then she asked why hadn't i started it, and i told her that i can't start it the mother has to do it. She (my sons mom) tells her that she is going to get it started that day. Her boyfriend wouldn't take her to get it started that day and now months later i'm being told that i owe back child support.... Is that even right, don't get me wrong if i owe more than i make monthly i'll figure a way to make it work
2006-07-12 12:08:31 · 14 answers · asked by DANK 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
for all of you who think i'm such a bad person, i've been there for my son since day one, I bought his mother a car so she could get him back and forth to appointments whenever i wasn't available, or whatever she needed it for. I know that what the court is aking me to pay isn't much because he drinks that much in milk (or atleast that's what i buy him everytime she tells me he needs something) She sold the car (her only means of transportation to and from anywhere, for much less that what i payed for it) She also has two other kids that needed her to have a car to take them the places that they needed to go, (ie. appointments, school, etc. etc.)
2006-07-12 12:24:51 · update #1
I'm stubborn i refuse to get an attorney for anything. So no i haven't got an attorney, guess i should be getting on ASAP!
2006-07-18 10:48:17 · update #2
Well now you have dug a hole for yourself and now you want to get out with the least expense to you.
That is your son, even though your ex-wife should have started the paper work for the money to be taken out each month, it was up to you to ensure that she did and not depend on your ex-wife's boyfriend to take her any place.
Yes it is right, you knew that you were still getting the same amount on your disability each month, the check had not changed. So you knew that she had not taken care of the business she should have. Her boyfriend should not be involved in you and her child's business. Since you did not pay child support or have it taken out of your disability check the county in which you live paid your child support for you. Now you have to pay back the county.
You could have gone back to court and got a court order authorizing you to start the paper work, or you could have taken the child support to the court from your check yourself since your ex-wife was not doing it. The court would have ensured that you got credit for the payments, you would not be in the situation you are in now. You would not be behind in your child support. Men make decisions and take action, not excuses and blame others. That is what you should have done.
You chose not to do anything and also spend the money you knew should have been going to your son for child support.
I will not call you a dead beat dad, but you did not take care of your business and now you are behind in child support. Being a man that is your fault and only your fault. Men take care of theirs and make sure things go smoothly in their lives. Men take care of business and don't rely on others.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
"FIGHT ON"
2006-07-12 12:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Skip 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to go to your court that you orginally went to. Explain what you've just said here. Let the judge know that you are willing to take responsibility in paying child support although you get diability look forward to child support taking from this no matter how small. On a better note one day the mother may get married an in some states they have laws that the step-parent has to help in the taking care of step children.
2006-07-12 12:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by charliepea2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should pay as much as it takes to raise your child. Stop whinning about your disability, be a man and take care of your responsibilities so others don't have to. You were a big man the night he was conceived, why aren't you a bigger man now and step up to the plate. Support him, it doesn't matter if you go with out somethings, he didn't ask you to bring him into this world. To me you sound like a bum living off the government. Get off your big A--, get some sort of job and support him you bum. One more thing you can't work but you can make love to a woman with no problem and make a child, if you can do that you can work.
2006-07-12 16:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by chuco 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you may be in NY. I can tell you this. I was in a similar situation with unemployment income. We 'talked' about it in court but later on, because there was no court ruling on it, I was forced to pay back support and continue to pay support in the amount of $267/week. My income was $300/week. I had 3 different attorneys but to no avail. The biased sons-of-a-seacook in NY sided with her (She cheated on me by the way) and I will have to pay support now for the rest of my life! The interest they charge keeps the amount above my payment so it will NEVER go away. (She gets the $$ - the kids got nothing!)
Get a lawyer and fight to pay NOTHING! That way, if you win, you can pay what you can afford or if you lose, you will actually be paying your fair share.
I could go on...
Added:
WARNING to your addition. Her attorney is advising her to do these things in an effort to bleed you! And by-the-way, I was Mr. Mom in our house. I did everything for my boys while she ran around. But she got it all and more!
2006-07-12 12:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by Newt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Daddy that what you say you are, Daddy do not pay child support daddy take of their children until they are grown $50 a week can't take care of a child, not because the court say pay X amount give the child more.
2006-07-12 12:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you get disability from social security you don't pay child support. Thats what I heard in Rhode Island. You can probably check it out at the social security web site.
2006-07-12 12:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they take a percentage out of your check i think it is 10% i not sure but if you went to court for it and they did not set it they you will have to pay back child support from the day you and the mom separated it suck but it is true
2006-07-12 12:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by nicks girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not quite clear on how you ended up owing back support but you owe what they say you owe. There's no way around paying it. Yes, it stinks but it happens.
2006-07-12 12:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by West Virginia Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wasn't worried about it then why is she now? Did her b'friend leave? If so, to bad. She needs to get a job and stop relying on a man.
2006-07-12 12:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by truckernowstudent 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get an attorney.
2006-07-18 04:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋