Im happliy invoved with the love of my life and some time soon we plan on having a "wedding". I know its not legal but knowone ever said you cant still celebrate it! I need some ideas on music and just the basics in planning a wedding! Has anyone ever been to a gay ceremony ?
2006-07-12 11:55:55 · 21 answers · asked by jjsassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ok Im a lesbian for those who think gay means men only and thank u for those who take my question seriously and not just getting points. Money is not an issue... and i love the outside idea! Any favors you think that might work?
2006-07-12 12:06:21 · update #1
Wow- I feel really sorry for some of the people who responded. Hate is such a waste of time. Enough about them...
Think of things you love. Include them in your special day. I really like the Amelie soundtrack for romantic but original and offbeat music.
Host a cocktail reception. You can pretty much have whatever you want for your wedding. The same things heterosexuals do- since having a 1st dance and throwing a bouquet have nothing to do w/ sexual orientation.
God Bless.
2006-07-12 12:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by bellytail 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My partner and I were married last year. You can do whatever you want to. We had a small wedding in Massachusetts (you have to be a resident there to marry there legally though)
We had the ceremony and reception at a resort called Eastover. Since we didn't want to spend a lot we had about 40 people and did brunch. It was really lovely. We were married outside on the grounds.
We hired a DJ and a wedding planner since we had to do all the arranging by long distance. We did not run into any prejudices with vendors. They want your business so just tell them that it is a gay wedding/civil union or whatever. If you don't want to don't tell them. After all what does the cake person care since they won't be at the wedding anyway. (we went cheap and just had a sheet cake from the grocery store.... tastes just as good (or better) than expensive wedding cakes.
The posters who said write your own vows are correct. That really makes things meaningful. There are even books out there that help you with writing them.
And to the posters full of hate.....Our love is no different... BTW why do all the ones against same sex marriage think only of gay SEX... we are more than that.
Try these links
http://www.gayweddings.com
http://www.fivestarsoftware.com/gaywedding/
http://www.twobrides.com/
http://www.gayrites.net/
2006-07-13 04:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jereza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what your fetishes and likes are you can start there. How much money do you want to spend? The ceremony is what you make of it. You can do it in leather, western, formal, or whatever.
Even do it as a court function for fun and then a traditional afterwards. IMAGINATION.
For the information of everyone else here NO NO NO... gay couples don't always turn it into a "whose the bride/groom". Thats a lie and a farce. Its two people coming together sharing their lives. If you are open with each other and your sex life now... there is no diff when married. There are gay couples who are more stable in their relationships when they have other play partners because not everyone is into or comfortable with needs and wants. You can go the vanilla route and stay in a plain sexual rut or experience the joys of SM/BD play which brings other couples and people closer together as this play requires the highest form of trust.
As far as the celebration, if you are into Leather some suggestions are bonding each other with handcuffs, ropes, ties. Getting pierced together. You can use candles no matter what you do. Exchange roses, vows are always going to remain in place for whatever you do.
Temporary peircings is another option where each person is tied toghether using the piercings of their partner until the ceremony is over.
If you guys/gals are more traditional, opt for opulence and showy.
Go to your local MCC church and let em know your plans, they might preside at the actual ceremony for you.
Even a nice Tux/Tails type day with a good dinner with family and friends.
Use music appropriate to the setting.
Even a pagan handfasting ceremony using 13 individuals in the room only with magical flair. (if you are into this stuff)
There are lots of things you can do. Use your imagination and don't let the bigots of the world ruin your plans. Just think of it as two people, not two gay/homosexuals showing their love and commitment for each other. Its just that gay people have more options planing a day to remember than straight people.
Congrats and good luck!!
BTW.. its legal in most places in Canada now!
2006-07-12 19:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by are u crazy?...cuz i am not! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gay wedding is just a straight wedding with two people of the same sex and hopefully two wedding gowns. (I have a small formal wear problem, wear what you like.) Plan it just like you would any other party. Planning weddings is fun. Try theknot.com. They have great ideas. I'm not sure where you are, so I can't recommend specifics. I've never been to a gay wedding, but I've seen some on TV, they seem pretty much like a regular wedding. Buy yourself a planning book, they're very helpful. Good luck.
2006-07-12 19:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in your case, a party with all of your friends would suffice. Their is an actual word for a ceremony, and some places where it is still legal to have an actual wedding.
With your own party, you could have it as small or big as you want with your own decorations and your own music that the two of you love.
I think a vowl exchange would be so romantic...
Its all about how you feel towards each other, not the whole ceremonial thing. You could make your own rules and make it totaly original, instead of following all the traditional wedding rules.
2006-07-12 19:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by ml_fiore_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason why a ceremony between two people of the same gender has to be any different than one between two people of different genders.
Think first about what kind of ceremony and reception you want and how big/lavish you want it to be. This will determine a lot of the other things you need to do - do you need a place for the ceremony and the reception separately, what food and how much, DJ or band, how many people, $$$, etc.?
I have been to lots of ceremonies uniting gay men or lesbians. The most important thing is that you make it unique and special according to what you want. That's all that matters, isn't it?
2006-07-12 19:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not go to Vermont and make it legal (at least in Vermont).
As for location - I've always been a sucker for outdoor weddings. Do you know anyone who has a great house with a great backyard? Maybe you could ask them.
Wow. I can't believe there are still people in the world that have as much hate as some of the people who have responded. I'm so sorry.
Congrats on finding love.
2006-07-12 19:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jocelyn L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am planning my wedding myself. And im going to give you a couple sites that are very very useful. First register for the knot very good site, it helps you with everything. I am using their checklist,bugeter, and lots more from this site. It keeps you very orangized. The company oriental trading helps with the favors, decorations, and more. The prices are reasonable. Another website is forever and always this has the rest of the wedding things you need. For inivations try dawns invitations. They are pretty cute and the prices are not bad. You could also make the invitations by yourself. Good luck and have fun. Best of wishes. Congrads.
2006-07-13 18:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by hottie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats kinda cool. ur not going to be restricted by cultureal ideas of marriage, so you can do what you want. Why don't you and your parter get together and talk about what elements of a normal wedding you like, and what you dont. Take those and then build your own special ceremony around it. Pick a really beautiful location and write your own vows. If you need a minister to do it, try a Unitarian Universalist church. They perform ceremonies and welcome gays in their congregations.
2006-07-12 18:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by ChaChaChingThing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best weddings are the ones that have something personal in it for the people who are being married.
You should try to each write your own unique vows. I went to a wedding two years ago between a wiccan and an athiest and thier touching vows were the best part.
Ps..congratulations on finding the one... I wish you many happy years of married bliss! ~_~
2006-07-12 19:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by luckybluebunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋