my girl and i and known eachother for two years now but really only been together for the last 2 months. When we got together it was amazing, i thought nothing could take us apart. I was a gentlemen to her opening doors and spoiling the crap outta her. and all of a sudden yesterday she started acting weird and said she needed more space. what is that supposed to mean? i don't know if she got scared or what cause it was to perfect. but what do i do i have all these feelings for her and no where to put them cause where on hold. i want to wine and dine her, spoil her, and show her how great it is. but she said where moving to fast and she wants to take a step back. how can we take a step back from where we already are. I want her back so bad she means the world to me. i haven't talked to her since yesterday i want her to make the move to call me first.
2006-07-12 11:23:36 · 6 answers · asked by j_barnes155 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell her how you feel..
2006-07-12 11:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably going way too fast for her. Slow down. Give her the space that she needs. Call her in about a week and just say hi. Keep it short. Let her come to you in her own time.
She is most likely scared that all the spoiling from you is too good to be true and that you will eventually hurt her.
I use to be the same way. If it was going too well, too soon I was afraid that the guy was just putting on a show and that he would hurt me and I would pull away or lose interest all together.
I am sure that she still have feelings for you but she will feel better about the relationship if you slow down the pace. Then when she is ready to talk, express how you love her and want to make her comfortable in the relationshp...also ask her what she needs in order to make things work between the two of you (if she has any fears or concerns).
2006-07-12 11:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by A M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are doing the correct thing. Don't call her or contact her. Let her make the first move. I can tell from what you have written you have strong feelings for her. Give her the space she requested. I think she just wants to take the relationship slow and it may be the first time a guy has ever treated her as well as you are treating her. When this happens girls get scared;they are in strange territory (especially if their other boyfriends/men in her life were major jerks). So when you guys talk give her the chance to share her feelings with you. Listen to her and then tell her how you feel. If her feelings for you are as strong as yours for her everything will be fine.
2006-07-12 11:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her be for now. People almost always want what they can't have. Let her come after you now. If she doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be and she's either not that into you, or she's too young and immature to know when she's got a good thing. Let her find out the hard way. Anyone else that you think is attractive? I know you're into this particular girl, but maybe just try to flirt with someone else and go out. Even if it's just to let her find out about it. If she doesn't appreciate you now, she's likely to do so more later when she gets out there and sees what available and how it may compare very unfavorably with what you offered her. By that time maybe you'll be into someone else - you never know. Don't jump through any hoops for her - she won't think it's attractive anyway and it'll put her off. Ignore her for now - that'll work better than anything else you could do - trust me and good luck.
2006-07-12 11:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like your smothering her and not letting her be her own person. Don't pursue her, let her pursue you. Just give her space
2006-07-12 11:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your best friend and tell her to leave his house and get back to yours, it worked for me
2006-07-12 11:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by ashton_35_kingsport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋