We never really fought... We got along great. He is 32 and I am 23. TWO days prior to him breaking up with me he told me he was falling in-love with me. the NEXT day he broke up with me. He said he didn't care about me anymore, the magic was gone, he was thinking with the wrong head... He said he wanted space and not to talk to him so he could get over me. I know he cared and still does. I can see it in his eyes. What happened? I asked if I did anything wrong and he said no. I know he does't have anyone else. he is not that type of person. I miss him so much... Please give me advice.
2006-07-12 11:18:20 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the only thing that I can see is that he was finally getting serious about you and freaked out. it might be the age difference. he might have thought that you were fine to date at first, but now he feels more and doesn't know what to do. write him a letter and tell him that you know what's going on with him and that it's ok to feel that way. but if he really wants you to leave him alone, and give up that one person who could be "the one", then you will.
2006-07-12 11:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sort of know. I'm 32 and my girlfriend is 22. I too am starting to fall in love with her. But... there are things in the age difference that matter. There is a lot of life experience in 10 years. Sometimes I feel like a parent with giving advice. I don't socialize well with some of her friends and I know that bugs her. When she goes out I rather just stay home. These things can way heavy on ones mind. Life and love are all about compromising. I really do feel the good outweighs the bad in my case, but maybe your bf See's it differently. Give him some space. You have a lot of life to live, and if anything learned something valuable. I'm sorry, but everything works out for the best.
2006-07-12 11:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First there isn't a type who doesn't cheat. I really find very strange that he can just say I love you one day and the next day it's over. Either he is afraid of commitment to you or he has someone else. If someone is bored in the relationship there are signs that lead up to a break up. Or maybe you weren't seeing the signs. I would call him and tell him that you need a explanation of why he broke up with you so sudden and why did he tell you he loved you. You need closure.
2006-07-12 11:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by LouMomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told u he's falling in love wit u and that probably scares him... Just give him the space he needs and things should work out... If he doesn't bother getting back in touch after awhile he's not worth it i no this seems bad but whats meant to be will be don't push him into anything lets everything go with the flow... be there in case he calls but don't let yourself be seen as too available if u no what i mean.. Anyways good luck
2006-07-12 11:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him sweetie, he's a crazy ******. At his age he should be stable adn know exactly what he wants/needs in his life. ****, this would be more acceptable if it were you the one breaking up with him b/c of your age. But forget him he's too unstable for a level headed women like you. There are plenty of men out there that know what they want and know how to express sincere love!
2006-07-12 11:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wasnt breaking up with you.. Maybe he is just scared of having a family-- Guys usually leave a good thing on the fly,only if theyre scared of the future or seeing someone else...
He might come around--
2006-07-12 11:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anytime a man makes an excuse to not see you, he lost interest. i don't have enough information about your relationship to know exactly why he left, but you may have made yourself too easy to win over. eagerness translates into neediness. men like a woman who is a challenge but not impossible to get. next time, make the guy chase you by not always being available for him, not answering your phone once in awhile, go out with your girlfriends without him, etc. but let him catch you once in awhile also.
never act like he's doing you a favor by dating you. always act like you are the prize.
2006-07-12 11:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed on your profile that it looks like you have kids. Is it possible that when he admitted to falling in love with you he realized that ultimately that could lead to marriage and that he isn't ready for a family? He may not see himself as the kind of guy that he believes you really need. Ultimately you need to respect his choice. Let him know your sorry he has changed his mind about your relationship and that while you don't like his choice to not be with you, you will respect it.
2006-07-12 11:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any advice? You'll like mine...
FORGET HIM - and he actually lied by not telling you WHY for there is obviously a reason.
you're too kind for him. Oh and very nice baby BTW. You two deserve better. Forget, forget, forget and even if he comes back (for sure he may come back if you forget him taht's always like that tell him it's OVER
2006-07-12 14:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by AnswerMachine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, unfortunately it sounds like he has his eye on someone else. Don't let it bother you. If he did it to you more then likely he will do it to the next one. It will hurt and you will miss him but let him go and someone better will come along.
2006-07-12 11:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Dee76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋