My cousin is having a formal wedding and has invited my son to be a ring bearer. Just wondering who should buy the suit for this occasion? My thinking is that the person having the wedding either rents or buys this stuff for all who they want to be in the wedding. Am I wrong? If I am wrong, then how can I politely decline?
2006-07-12 10:58:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You would be responsible for buying it. If your son was asked to be in the wedding, you must be close to the couple - just honestly explain that it was an honor for him to be asked but that for whatever reason (financial, etc) you won't be able to do it.
2006-07-12 11:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definately responsible for your son's attire.
But, I recently coordinated a wedding, and the parents of the ring bearer found a fabulous little suit at the local thrift store (I swear it looked like it had never been worn!) for $5 and bought him a new shirt and tie (cost = $10) for the event, so their bill was only $15!
Just an option if you didn't want to have to bow out for financial reasons.
2006-07-12 18:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Shower Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but wedding attendants (or their parents) are responsible for the rental (don't buy it) of the tuxes or purchase of the dresses for bridesmaids. When you accept to be in the wedding party you are accepting this responsibility.
If you can't afford it, then tell him so. Be honest, he will not be offended. He may offer to pay for it if they can afford it and really want your son in the wedding. Otherwise, he'll have to go without a ringbearer or find someone else.
2006-07-12 18:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parent of the boy buys the suit. When accepting to be in a wedding party, you are automatically assuming the responsiblility of whatever costs you incur.
Just tell him that you are honored that he would want your son as ring bearer, but you think he will not be old enough....or you can't afford it right now....or whatever reason you want to give.
2006-07-12 18:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Am I wrong?" Yes. In the past, it's been correct etiquette for the couple or the person paying for the wedding to pay for the attire of the entire wedding party. But now, unless the B&G are very wealthy and generous, it's standard and perfectly normal for each wedding party member to pay for their own clothes. The B&G pick them out but aren't responsible for the final bill.
2006-07-12 18:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person having the wedding should be the one paying for everything. If the bride and groom wanted you to pay for it, then he or she should let you know when they asked your son to be the ringbearer. Maybe you should asked the happy couple.
Just let them know that you can not rent or buy the suit and if they want them in the wedding, then maybe they will break down and rent on for him.
2006-07-12 18:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the wedding party pays for all of their own attire. But for a little boy, tux rentals are real cheap. Depending where you live, for example I'm in California and my best friend is getting married and a tux for her nephews were only $50.00 each and Silicon Valley is expensive. Also you can ask for them to rent it for you as a package with the groom's and groom's men tuxes. They give discounts for doing that.
Try these places Selix , Gengiss (spell?) & Men's Warehouse.
Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-12 18:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Cynthia H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case you are wrong.Here is what you can say:I'm sorry but do to a mix up in our scheduling he will not be able to make it.Though you might want to ask politely who is expected to pay for the renting of the ring bearer attire,best to ask your cousin so as not to offend the bride.
2006-07-12 22:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, it is the responsibility of the participant to pay for the suit or rental of the suit.
you should ask your cousin on what he plans to do for tuxes for the groom's party. tell him that you won't be able to participate because you don't have the budget. I am sure that your cousin will understand.
my fiance and i are paying for all the bridesmaid dresses and tux rentals because people are travelling from far away to come. he may be generous enough to pay for the tux. let him make the offer... if not, just politely tell him that your son won't be able to be able to participate.
2006-07-12 18:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by ChitChatBrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should rent or buy the suit. If you can't afford it just let them know maybe they will offer to pay for it but they are not obligated to.
2006-07-12 18:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by LB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋