How do i tell my parents to leave me alone?
2006-07-12 10:56:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am going to tell you things that more than likely you will not like to hear.
First off, I assume that you are living at home. THAT in and of itself means that you do not have some freedoms that you might think you are entitled to, but do not have,
Your parents (more often than not) do have your best interests in mind. Sometimes that may not seem like the case, but remember that they were your age once as well and they have been through the pratfalls and they are trying to give you the most valuable currency that a parent can give a child: the benefit of the knowledge of the experience they have gained.
I KNOW WHAT you are thinking- you think that you are the best master of your life, well you are not.
The simple FACT is that teenagers literally have a whole slew of hormones racing through them that prevent them from completely rational thought. Sorry, but it is true.
In short course you will come to realize that getting your parents off your back is not an issue.
Unless you live with Nazi's, I suspect that you are just going through the usual teen angst. If you want this time top go smoother, act REALLY mature and see things from a parents view point. THEN you will see how smooth your life can be.
I also suggest you talk to your parents and SHOW them what you did in here. They will see that you are actively looking for some way to deal with them equitably.
TFTP
2006-07-12 11:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're living with them or they're supporting you in any way, shape or form...you don't. You suck it up until you're a grown up and are supporting yourself.
Even once you're paying your own way in life, you may want to think about it hard. I can tell you from experience that no matter how financially secure, or medically healthy, you may THINK you are...there may come a time when you need their help.
If you're a self-supporting adult, I highly recommend smiling and saying, "thank you for your concern/opinion/suggestion, I really appreciate that you care enough to offer your concern/opinion/suggestion".
When they reply with, "But you never listen to me". You can say, "But that doesn't mean I don't appreciate hearing what you think".
Trust me...been there...done that...lived the nightmare.
If they're supporting you, you need to get a reality check and realize that being supported comes with a price tag...and compliance and respect are just two of them.
2006-07-12 11:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a lot depends on your age and why they are on your back and if you live under their roof but without more info we just can't give a straight answer. My parents finally left me alone - literally - they have both passed away and I sure do miss their meddling so be careful what you wish for
2006-07-12 11:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million. re: mom: you do not ought to convey regret for having a life. she will in no way understand why she would not come first. Get used to it and do not enable her to guilt you into catering to her. it is significant to undergo in ideas once you've your own kin. prepare her now or she will intrude with your husband and little ones. as to what to assert to her: mom, i'm a grown lady with my own life now. 2. re: dad: "i'm sorry yet i'll't have adequate money to furnish you that quantity of money and in no way be paid back". you do not ought to finance your moms and dads' whims or maybe their business enterprise deals. Your in common words economic duty on your moms and dads is to be particular that their uncomplicated desires are being met and it would not ought to ruin you to do it. except that, that's what banks are for. If he won't be able to get a economic corporation personal loan then per chance he's in the incorrect business enterprise. And as to him telling you "do not worry about being paid back" incorrect answer. The economic corporation would not take that. BTW: in case you do lend money to kin, draw up a freelance with a repayment plan and characteristic it notarized so it really is a criminal document and also you could sue to be repaid the money, if want be. in the experience that they don't opt to signal, then they'd no intentions of paying you back. edit: once you're nevertheless residing at living house, then it really is time to get your own position. they are going to proceed to work out you as a baby with surplus money flow in case you reside less than their roof.
2016-11-01 22:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will depend on how old you are and what you do to yourself behind their back.
If you want to be independant for geniune reason then try to break the channels with which they spy on you............loosing contact with so family friends etc.,
If they are straight on your face then find a good reason to move out of your house- finding a new job out of town or doing a course elsewhere will give you more freedom.
2006-07-12 11:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by niboyce1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like a decent young person, respect their rules, listen too their advice (even if you don't like what you hear) and if they are decent parents chances are they will respect your territory, too.
Remember they DO know what's best for you believe it or not.
2006-07-12 12:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by watty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say with all due respect please step back and allow me to make my own decision, or you say as much as i value your opionion I feel the need to make my own mind up. never ever tell your parents to leave you alone,
2006-07-12 11:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by donna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont. there is no respectful way to do that
2006-07-12 10:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋