what do i do?

Question

I have a boyfriend who makes me happy. i am probably not in love with him yet but we r happy together.
now here is my problem. 3 of my ex-boyfriends still call me to say they still love me.
my first love we were together for 4 years from when i was 16 called me and asked me to marry him. and so did d guy after him who i dated for just 1 year.
They r driving me crazy.
i dont know what to do. do i tell my boyfriend about this, or not? and what do i say to these guys who keep calling me? i already said no. but they wont stop.
ANYSUGESTIONS????????

Answer 1

Heres what i think. First of all, if you loved your previous boyfriends you would have wanted to marry one of them then...and you didnt, and obviosuly you are not charmed by the idea of marrying one of them now. So it's time to call it a day with them, and time to tell them that you are in another relationship now, and while you would still like to be friends, they must respect your position and back off.

I don't see the point in telling your present boyfriend, as it may come across as if a) you're bragging and b) as though you're putting pressure on him to get married. It doesn't sound like you are particularly keen to marry him either, yet, so give this relationship time to mature and take it from there.

You're young enough to take your time and there is no point in rushing into marriage unless you are 110% sure that this is the one that will work for you for the rest of your life. Have a little fun in the meantime and continue to be sensible.

Answer 2

I apologise now for this harsh answer - u need to stop pretending and be honest. If the ex's are still calling its because u want them to - otherwise u would have changed fone number/told em straight to f*** off/got an injunction. U obviously love male attention. So telling the boyfriend would be right up ure street cos u would have 3 guys chasin u and one poor schmuck to have a drama with.
Get real girl and grow up. Ditch the poor guy u dont love, spend time with just yourself and then maybe you'll have a life that can really be shared with someone.
Good luck

Answer 3

Dont let the past spoil the present and the future. If you still love any of the ex's go back to them. If not, tell them all to stop mithering you and leave you alone and that your not interested.

If they still persist, tell your boyfriend your getting the calls (just tell him they are nuisance calls if it makes it easier - although lying is not a good basis for a relationship) and then get your number changed. Why do they still have your number anyway???

Answer 4

You have to give them a NO NO NO and say i don't love you anymore i have moved on to someone better and u tell that is the the end good bye. Also if u know that it is them calling don't answer the phone. Good Luck i hope u know what to do soon
~railman9000

Answer 5

well first of all id say, do you care about any of these other guys that keep calling you? if not then problem solved, be stong and these persistant callers will leave you alone in time!!
if you do happen to care for any of these previous partners then you are in a pickle and i suggest you put your current relationship on hold for a while, until you clear you head and figure out what and/or who you really want to be with, if anyone.
good luck....youll need it??

Answer 6

Take a step back and sort out your feelings for these people who claim to love you. You are being unfair to your current boyfriend with all these things going on behind his back. Most importantly, believe in Karma.

Answer 7

If you are really not interested in any of them you gotta be a ***** sorry be cruel thats the only way.

and then if they dont go away tell ur boyfriend as you have nothing to hide?!

Answer 8

Change your number and don't give it to your ex's. Also, stop encouraging them! Perhaps, you like the idea of having 4 guys after you..hope one of them is'nt a 'psycho'

Answer 9

You may just have to get ugly with them to get them to quit calling. It sounds like you may not be ready for a relationship right now, and that you are just looking for a best friend. If any of them were right for you, your gut would tell you.

Answer 10

I have a really good idea that you don't know what love is , so first i would suggest that you find out what real love is and then you'll know exactly what it is that you want.