Who is right????

Question

My sister in law had a misscarriage last week. When the doctor came into the room he called it a spontanious abortion (The medical term) my little sister who is 13 and a total little B**CH and gets away with murder. Over heard this and is going around telling people that my sister in law had an abortion. She knows what she is saying is wrong, she is just hateful. My brother won't even go around her or my parents because of this and the fact that Mom & Dad refuse to punish her for spreading this lie. So far my sister in law has not heard what is being said but I am sure she will sooner or later. She is a wonderful person and wants children very badly. I think that my parents should give my sister some kind of punishment. What do you think. And yes she knows what she is saying is wrong because I came right out and asked her.

Answer 1

As hard as it might be, you might want to warn your sister-in-law and let her know that despite your little sister being such a jerk, no one else in the family is listening to her and everyone understands what she's going through. You don't say if you still live under the same roof with your little sister but if you do, you can try to set her some good examples to learn from. And I'd try talking to your parents about this one more time. Or maybe lie and say your little sister is slutting around with the neighborhood boys. That should be good enough to get the little monster locked up in her room for a while. Good luck, and best of luck to sister-in-law.

Answer 2

Maybe your little sister will learn her lesson when no one in your family wants to interact with her.

Some form of a punishment is appropriate but will probably not help if she is truly that hate-full of a person.

In this instance I think I would simply ignore her except telling her how childish her behavior is. Don't let here think it bothers anyone. If you all just shake your head disapprovingly like she's just a "silly, silly little girl with her stories" she might stop.

The approach up to now seems to be attacks and anger. Your sister is living off of and loving the drama involved in this. She's 13 - she thinks it's cool to be rebellious, hateful and poorly mannered. Show her that her behaivior is unacceptable by simply not paying so much attention to it. Treat it like the little fantasy it is from an immature little girl who just does not know any better.

Answer 3

Just explain to her why it is hurtful and explain the difference in the terms. She is 13, thirteen year olds do nasty stuff sometimes, make mistakes and some of them are big ones. At the end of the day she is a kid, and will likely turn out just fine...unless her family bashes her too much for the mistakes she does make. It only needs to be made right. And then you forgive and treat her with respect. Sister in law will one day have a 13 year old and if doesnt understand now...will in time understand that those are things sometimes 13 year olds do.

Answer 4

I don't know what to say. That is incredibly cruel of her. If she looks up to you at all as an older sister (even the tiniest bit) you should probably have a sister-to-sister talk with her, explaining WHY what she is doing is cruel, and try to put it in the point of view of your sister-in-law. She's had a miscarriage in her first pregnancy (I assume) she is already upset enough without people spreading lies about her miscarriage. She wouldn't want people to know that she didn't want to have a baby. explain this to her sister,and maybe she'll come around. if she has no respect for you, ask someone she does have respect for to tell here this.

Answer 5

Your sister is at the age right now,that she just does not care who she hurts or what she says..It is wrong that she has not had some kind of punishment for what she is doing,and maybe you should let your parents know how it is hurting your brother that she is saying those things. A teenager will do alot of things and say alot of things just to test people to see how far they can really go before they get punished.

Answer 6

Your parents should definitely punish her or at least sit her down and tell her what she is doing is very hurtful. Explain to her that the child which was miscarried would have been her niece or nephew, so she should be sad too! Why the hell did the doctor call it that anyway???!!! That is horrible too! A miscarriage is a miscarriage!!! The whole thing is sad and someone needs to address your sister asap!

Answer 7

Your parents definately need to punish her. A spontaneous abortion is very different from getting an abortion. She is spreading lies and stretching the truth and needs to stop that now. She does it to the wrong person she is going to be in a lot of trouble.

Answer 8

Sounds like she is out of control. Is there any discipline in the home cause if there was she would not be doing this. It's imperative to nip it in the bud when the child is small. Your Mom & Dad should punish her for saying such an awful thing but you already said they won't. Now that she is 13 she is paving her own way cause she knows better she just won't do better. All I can suggest is if you can, get out of the line of fire cause it's not over yet.

Answer 9

I would take my 13 year old sister to the side and let her know what a spontaneous abortion is and ask her if she had had the same thing happen to her if she would like everyone going around saying that she had an abortion.

Answer 10

It sounds like the little 13 yr old sister is lashing out and looking for attention from anyone who will listen to her,,, hopefully the sister-in-law knows the 13 yr old well enough to not let it bother her,,, but words do hurt no matter who it comes from,,, it might be wise that you talk to the sis-in-law and tell her what she is doing so that she can be prepared,,, and it might not hurt so much when it gets to her... then talk to the bratty sister and set her straight about the lovely sis-in-law........