my girl and i and known eachother for two years now but really only been together for the last 2 months. When we got together it was amazing, i thought nothing could take us apart. I was a gentlemen to her opening doors and spoiling the crap outta her. and all of a sudden yesterday she started acting weird and said she needed more space. what is that supposed to mean? i don't know if she got scared or what cause it was to perfect. but what do i do i have all these feelings for her and no where to put them cause where on hold. i want to wine and dine her, spoil her, and show her how great it is. but she said where moving to fast and she wants to take a step back. how can we take a step back from where we already are. I want her back so bad she means the world to me.
2006-07-12 10:40:53 · 33 answers · asked by j_barnes155 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, she wants a guy who plays d MAN.. dominant but kind, challenging but sweet & unpredictable yet thoughtful..
You became too predictable ..learn from this, and be wiser in your next relationship
2006-07-12 10:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man see you are going to fast and you dont even realize it , you were waiting so long to be with this person that you thought the wining and dining and spoiling her would be the right thing to do but its not. you haven't known this person for two years now you have known them for two months. It is different when you start dating it is not the same person and you are obviously not the same person either. You need to sit back and actually yes slow things up get back to where you were before you started dating do the same things you would do before you started datng. You pulled her right out of her comfort zone and into something she might not have been ready for . The answer for the future always lies in the past. Go back to it.
2006-07-12 10:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by bibby6914 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from personal experience the same is happening to me to i know that it is hard (especially for me I was with him for 3 years at the end of the month) i think she is confused she probably has never been with anyone like you and it scared her. Give her time try not to call keep busy and when they realize hey they miss you and the things you do for them they will call...don't worry about it she will call believe me but only time will tell until then hang out with the guys and work, study do guy things for awhile but if and when you get back together sit down and talk about where you both are in life because you cant be on different pages but take it day by day don't rush because the other one might get scared off because you probably feel like she is your world and you want her to be in your life forever because those emotions really do something to you...hey you need to talk to someone IM me sometime a_munoz87 good luck
2006-07-12 10:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by luv*all26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back and listen to what she's saying. She wants more space, so give it to her.
That doesn't mean the end of things. It may mean she just needs to put her thoughts together. She might have viewed your behavior as being pushy or needy.
Hate to say it but opening doors is just being polite. Women also don't need to be spoiled to death all of the time, either.
In two months, you were moving too fast. You both need your own lives too.
2006-07-12 10:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by keyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were too nice (yes, you CAN be too nice). You might have been smothering her. I'm sure you thought you were just doing what she wanted you to, but try taking a step back. If you really want her that bad then she will be worth the wait. Send her flowers and tell her you're there when she's ready. If you don't hear from her in a day or two get on with your life because she is getting on with hers.
2006-07-12 10:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by impossible 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer the best strategy is to move on and don't crowd her space. In other words, be a success without her. You are more likely to attract her if you find someone that she would consider a step up in looks, intelligence, etc. Most of all being desperate to get her back will only feed her ego and prove to her that she made the right decision.
2006-07-12 10:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by whozethere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sweet! I wish my boyfriend felt like that about me! Maybe u were pushing it a little too much. Let her breath for a while, then tell her that u didn't mean to screw things up, u were just trying to get her affection, that's all. Then go ahead and tell her how u really feel about her. I hope it all works out, and if it doesn't,. then I'm really sorry, but u can do better than that. U will someday find someone who feels the same way about u. Who knows? She might be closer than u think!
Good Luck! I hope I helped! :)
2006-07-12 10:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by MADRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, play her game. Act like you could care less that you guys broke up. Jealousy is one of the worst feelings and will make people go crazy. When she sees you're not interested, she'll start trying to win you back. But if you want to keep her when you do get her back, make sure that you give her some space to go hang out with friends. Hopefully this helps you! Good luck.
2006-07-12 10:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 05:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were being too nice with her and doing everything for her. In today's world, women are liberated and are annoyed by chivalry. You should've let her chase you too. Since you were always chasing her, you did not let her try to seduce you, you were not much of a challenge nor an accomplishment for her.
Women like MASCULINE men with strong arms, strong body and a healthy dose of impulsivity. I would suggest you start body building and get a job. Try to seduce your girl by selling yourself as a masculine man. Women want strong MEN, they don't want a butler.
If you open the door for her, are always nice with her etc. She might interpret this as weakness. Also when she says that she needs more space, this means that you must let her open the door herself etc.
2006-07-12 10:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to do is send her a note with this on it:
"I've always valued your sense of Trust and your sense of People and i respect that very much about you, no matter what".
Send it with some flowers, or a box of her favorite chocolates or something she likes.
That will open a door and it will go a long way to getting her back. It is a very good first step - being able to communicate openly with her because that builds trust. Women need that. So do we.
2006-07-12 10:44:57 · answer #11 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋