2006-07-12 10:35:52 · 13 answers · asked by Hi there 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I meant to say, are they using them for sex.
2006-07-12 10:39:28 · update #1
I married a woman with 5 kids.
And, we still have sex.
2006-07-12 10:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by racingcowboy58 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man this is such a tough question for me personally because my ex was pregnant and she got into a car accident when she was nine months and lost a child, so now when I see a woman I might date has children my father role plays into me that I never got to play and it is not a problem to me, and it is definetley not a means to use anyone for sex. On the other hand it is easier for guys to have sex with women that are single mothers because alot of the time they are looking for the next good thing and are always clinging on to that hope unknowingly so it gos both ways. Some guys take advantage of this fact yes but others dont so remember that and judge for yourself when your seeing someone or someone you know is seeing someone if you really sit back and watch you can tell the differences between genuine concern and just wanting sex. You will be surprised when you stop and look at the world how simple some things are.
2006-07-12 10:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by bibby6914 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. There are some great guys out there who realize that if they want the girl bad enough then they're going to have to accept her lock, stock AND kid. There are also some real weenies who think that just b/c a girl has a kid or two that she doesn't get out much or is desperate to hook up so they'll use her for sex not knowing what they're REALLY missing out on.
2006-07-12 10:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jill S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this question is a little silly.
if there weren't guys who liked kids, we wouldn't have a planet or society.
granted some guys are sleezy...
Watch how he treats the kids, then you'll know.
Is he mean to them, but nice to you?
Does he always pay attention to you, but ignore them?
Or does he play with them, help them, spend time with them to keep them occupied when you need to do something?
Does he answer their questions, help them with homework?
(on his on volition now, not because you demanded it or asked for a special situation -- his own doing.)
That will tell you which way it is. Be careful you don't mistake someone who is uncomfortable with children, or waiting for your OK to do something with them. Human beings can sometimes show love in odd ways, like very strict discipline or heavy control. That doesn't mean they don't love them, just means the person is a little overboard on control. Leave them all alone sometime and watch from a distance. It's the end result or final product of the help that you base your judgement on.
Love and desire for continued survival are very intimately connected, if not the same thing. Does he do things to help, better, or continue their survival?
That is how you tell with anyone, men and women alike.
Hope this works for you, if not and you have specific questions you can email me.
Remember -- final result is what to look at.
2006-07-12 10:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by kevrob8008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are great serious guys out there that would love you and your kids. And there are guys out there that think they are doing you a favor for the evening. So don't let these jerks keep you from believeing that there are no decent men available. If you run in to the kind that just wants to do you a "favor", do him the "favor" and put him out along with the cat. You know what I mean?
2006-07-12 10:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys don't mind at all. I know a lot of guys who got serious with girls who have kids. It really depends on the type of guy he is. Btw, I liked your answer to my question of a few minutes ago... Best so far!
2006-07-12 10:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by Cormac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that depends of the guy, just now my best friend it`s about to marry whit a girl of 32 years and she is mother of 2 kids (5,7 years old) but it`s only an example.
2006-07-12 10:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by wingsandsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't know for sure until you have sex and the guy still shows interest in getting to know your kids.
2006-07-12 10:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Champ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the guys want girls just for sex. but some guys are really in love with girls ie true love
2006-07-12 10:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys do i was pregnant when i firs met my husband he talked me int keeping the baby then we were just friend then a year later we got togather again we got married and have been married for 27 years no sex with him until almost married.
2006-07-12 10:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by paula j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋