I just broke up with my bf and I want to be friends with him. I know, though, that I still love him but I couldnt date him. Has anyone else stayed friends with their ex????
2006-07-12 10:18:45 · 33 answers · asked by newtothis21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've had a 27 year friendship with my one and only ex, we both went on to marry people we love, yet have remained friends, platonic friends, all this time. I am also HIS one and only ex, we love each other but not in the ways it takes to be happy as a couple, we are far happier as best friends.
2006-07-12 10:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by Daydream Believer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is impossible to stay friends w an ex. Someone always wants something. Besides think of him getting over u and going on dates.. that would kill anyone. Give it time to heal and get closure before thinking of pursuing friendship. I know too many people who remain friends w their ex and thus not being able to obtain full closure.. Be honest with urself. You know that, the main motivation of trying to be friends w an ex right after a break up, is to hope that you guys might get back together> Not a good end to start a new beginning..
2006-07-12 10:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by J*LO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wanting to be friends w/ exes is ALWAYS good intentioned..but just not a good idea. staying on good terms/ being acquaintance is ok, or wanting the very best for the other person is great. wanting to continue a pseudo "friendship" when there are feelings still involved, especially RIGHT AFTER breaking it off... you need your own space and to learn how to live your life without that person. doesn't mean you hate him, doesn't mean he's a bad person, or you're a bad person.. just means you don't fit in eachother's lives anymore, and staying close friends can lead to lingering feelings in the long run and cause problems for future relationships with other people. it's hard, but you will eventually find someone who you need to put your 100% into, and your ex is from the past.
2006-07-12 10:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my ex for a year, then we were engaged for a year, then we mutually decided to break up. It's been a year since we broke up and we're still really close. I suggest you guys keep your distance for a while though. The first few months will be really tough on the both of you and if you don't respect each others new space it's going to be difficult to properly move on.
2006-07-12 10:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by KVC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, I am still friends with ALL my old ex-girlfriends. We discover later in the relationship that we were best suited as being friends than be in a romantic relationship. And for you smart a$$es out, I broke off most of my relationships.
2006-07-12 10:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by ohnoslen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never tryed or wanted to be friends with any of my ex's they either moved away or I just didnt really care. Plus I tryed it wit my recent ex n it didnt work out at all. I really didnt want to n try meeting new ppl n move on with him in my life still, so I dropped his azz met sum1 else thats way more better n have nothing to do wit him ne more. Its better off this way too.
2006-07-12 10:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by *Cupcake* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently trying to, but it just feels so weird. I am better off without her though because she was the one doing the hurting and I will never look at her the same way. If that's the case with you, I know it's hard, but you should move on. Get your mind off of things and get back to normal life.
2006-07-12 10:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by lovemonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best if both of you just move on. Your love is only a manifestation of your past relationship. When you find someone better for you, you will wonder why you ever thought you still loved him. Move on, heal, then maybe consider being friends again.
2006-07-12 10:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by dk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed friends with my ex-husband. It depends on the circumstances of the break-up. If you were better friends then lovers it stands to reason that you can be friends still.
2006-07-12 10:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm friends with 2 of my 3 ex- fiances.
2006-07-12 10:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋