She has done everything in her power to break us up. She even tried to have an intervention to have my fiance leave me.
My husband married me anyways and she is still hating me a year and a half after our wedding.
We have been together for 5 years but she still thinks we will divorce soon.
She has said she doesn't want her son to have children with me.
We plan to get pregnant soon, how do we break the news to her and how do we deal with this evil witch?
2006-07-12 10:17:19 · 13 answers · asked by WannaBeMom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her she's had her time. now its your turn. he is married to you not her.
2006-07-12 10:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by chevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and popular son and that i all have brown hair and eyes. My husband and son look same, and they are both large adult men. Our second son is skinny and lengthy, with blonde hair and blue eyes. He feels like my husband's uncle and cousins, yet no longer something like my husband or I. My father in regulation retains making comments about the mailman, the milkman, something about a timber pile, did I make any recent friends, did my husband lose song of me one evening, etc... It receives fairly stressful, yet on the grounds that my husband purely brushes it off, so do I. i discussed to my husband how he had suggested it even as our son wasn't even an hour previous, and how hurtful it became. My husband it seems that informed me now to not justify it with a reaction, and my father in regulation will wind up feeling stupid. The comments have began to bother the total family individuals now, so each and every time he says something, no individual laughs, all of us purely variety of ignores it till the problem is changed.
2016-11-06 06:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband really needs to stand up to his mother and let her know that he will not allow her to treat you that way. He is an adult now and needs to be allowed to make his own choices. She has to learn to live with her sons choices. If she truly loves him she will respect his wishes and treat you with respect.
As for the baby, just flat out tell her. She might be upset at first but she'll get over it. When the baby is born she will probably love the baby so much that she will forget all of her foolishness. If she doesn't, oh well. Maybe you guys will just have to cut her off completely until she can learn to treat you all with the respect that you deserve.
2006-07-12 10:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by PuddN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for your husband to have an intervention. He needs to have a meeting with her. It should include you, her, and any members of his family that think her behavior is unreasonable.
Starting with your husband, each person should tell her that you are her to stay and that you are family. You should go last and tell her that you want to be a good wife, good mother, and good daughter-in-law, but that you'll settle for the first two if you are forced to do so. Lastly, you and your husband need to tell her that she has to decide if she's going to be good grandmother.
It is important that you do this. She will inflict emotional harm on your children if she expresses her feelings about you to them. Based on what you've told us, I think it is likely that she will.
2006-07-12 10:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing about in-laws is that they are your family like it or not. In this case it seem that you two have not payed attention to her in the past and I would continue that now. When you break the news to her about having kids together your husband should make it clear that her attitude about you and the kids you two will have should either be good or she should keep her mouth shut. Let her know that talking bad about you or the kids will result in her being shut out of all of your lives.
2006-07-12 10:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As it says in the Bible in Romans 12, as much as it depends upon you, live at peace with everyone else and don't be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. That's the best thing that you can do in a situation like this besides praying that God will give this woman a changed heart and convict her of her malicious ways.
2006-07-12 10:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should tell his mother but fast that you are his wife, that's that, and either she can accept it or risk losing him and any potential grandchildren. Then he should stand firm and drop her like a ton of rocks if she won't behave. It sounds harsh, but he needs to take a stand. He is an adult and free to choose who to be with and what to do. It might be his mother, but there's no real relationship there anyway if she's like this so he shouldn't be concerned with telling her to take a hike.
2006-07-12 10:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by WhyAskWhy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your husband feel about this? Has he stood up for you to his mother? What about his dad?
Move as far away from this person as possible. You don't need that kind of drama in your life, and you don't need her dissing your kid.
2006-07-12 10:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you got married, you became as ONE! Not as you , your husband and the mother-in-law.Why do you feel you need to tell her anything? Let him tell her.
2006-07-12 10:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by proud of it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be right up front with her about everything from here on out.
2006-07-12 10:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by darlene793 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exuss me but are you cping this story from some kind of movie
2006-07-12 10:23:30 · answer #11 · answered by im 2 hot 4 you! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋