My mother has gone through hell having her children from abuse to rape to being mistreated from her own family and friends. But I am no child, I have been married once and I live on my own in my own home. I owe her everything but I dont want to live my life in constant worry that I may upset her or have her not approve of my actions. She is from a Greek background (born there, moved to England when she got married at 18).
2006-07-12 10:17:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mom is your best friend. Consider what she says and follow your brain, not your heart. Hearts tend to lead us to someone that is not good for us. Use your brain and make decisions based on good sound judgment.
2006-07-12 10:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by tobinmbsc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother was from Europe, she has passed now, but I remember when I was growing up, it was a constant struggle between she and I and my siblings, because the way we do things here in America was different from the way she was raised. She also had a very hard life but I respected her and I respected what she survived in her life.
Remember that your mothers perspectives will be different from yours because she was raised in a different age than the way things are now.
Learn from her, from what she experienced, but ultimately you have to live your own life. That doesn't mean turning your back on your mother because in this whole world, she is the one person in your life that will always be there for you , will always love you, and will always want what's best for you.
Also, your mother will never deliberately give you bad advise. We mothers give the best advise we know how to give to our children.
Use good judgments when you make a decision in your life and I will echo what another person told you. Don't "follow your heart' when making decisions, "Follow your brain". Remember the brain sits above the heart, its there to be used first. The brain makes decisions based on facts, the heart is about emotions.
Also remember you don't have to give your mother every little detail about what's going on in your life. If you know something will upset her, don't tell her. When you talk with her, give her news she will enjoy hearing and keep your mouth shut about things that will worry her.
2006-07-12 17:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by pinegreen7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are worried about your mom's reaction but who has to live in your life? You do. You need to make the decision based on what you want and what you need. You have to live with the consequences of your actions not her.
Your mom loves you give her a chance. Has she given any indication that it is her way or the highway. I believe that she will support whatever decision you make (as long as it is not illegal). But either way you have to do what is right for you. Like I said you have to live your life and whatever may lead from the decisions you make.
As you said you are an adult now. Make your own decisions.
2006-07-12 10:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 07:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it is obvious that it is important to you what your mother thinks of what you do and how you live your life, however it is your life to live and not hers. If she is a great mother, she will understand and accept your decisions, no matter what they are. But you can't turn your back on your mother, just try to make her proud; but you don't have to be a slave to her or be in constant worry over whether she approves or not.
2006-07-12 10:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Deja Entendu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases, mother doesn't know best. Just follow your heart hon. You have ONE life to live, so you might as well do want you want to do, and not live by someone else's standards.
2006-07-12 10:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by xxtra chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your life. Don't wait for your mom to pass to do it, because you'll have "wasted" too much of your short time here waiting to live your own life.
She may not approve of everything you do, but she may come to accept it and respect your wishes.
2006-07-12 10:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your life to make yourself happy. My husband is half Greek and he has that guilt from his father as well. You can be there for your mom but don't let her run your life. As difficult as it is for her to let you go she should understand that you need to find happiness when she couldn't.
2006-07-12 10:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your mother.
She has the experieince and wether you like it or not.
You ARE AN EXTENTION OF HER!!!!!
Sometimes the life you life is the life of someone else.
Make her proud.
and stop watching porno like I do.
It clouds your mind with evil thoughts.
2006-07-12 10:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by stewart_pittman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be the one who decides how to live your life.not your mother.you can't live your life any other way but the way you want to live it.if not you'll probably be miserable for the rest of your life.
2006-07-12 10:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by curious lupi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋