Every time i go in my room to relax or calm down my sister barges in like she owns the place and starts trashing my room. I'd lock her out but I'm not allowed to lock the doors.
And when she has somthing of mine i ask her 2 please give it back and she says no. and then she starts sceaming when i take it from her. and i end up getting in trouble. and when i do it to her i still end up in trouble. It seems that every thing that i do some how i'm always the one that ends up with the blame
2006-07-12 10:14:32 · 9 answers · asked by Miss Priss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Every time i go in my room to relax or calm down my 9 year old sister barges in like she owns the place and starts trashing my room. I'd lock her out but I'm not allowed to lock the doors.
And when she has somthing of mine i ask her 2 please give it back and she says no. and then she starts sceaming when i take it from her. and i end up getting in trouble. and when i do it to her i still end up in trouble. It seems that every thing that i do some how i'm always the one that ends up with the blame. Pretty much the same problem with my 8 year old brother, Sean too only sometimes worse.
2006-07-12 12:18:12 · update #1
I'm going to guess your sister is younger than you. If not, then this is a whole different issue.
Really there's one big problem here and it's that your sister doesn't respect boundaries (yours).
Having had an older sister (and a little brother) I had to learn this with both of my siblings. My brother tagged along all the time and drove my older sister nuts. She hated him. I understood a little better because he was lonely and wanted to be part of the "fun" (even if my sister and I weren't doing anything particularly "fun", he felt like an outsider so it looked like fun anyhow). I understood him because I always wanted to be where my sister was, doing what she was doing, etc. too.
Fortunately, my sister and I mostly got along. But sometimes I know I irritated the crap out of her. We had to learn how to respect one another's space and privacy, even in sharing a room. When one of us wanted time alone, we had to learn how to let the other one know and I had to learn how to not take it personally when she indicated that she didn't want to deal with me. That wasn't easy. In general, I got most angry and acted out (like your sister) when I felt like my sister didn't want me around, like she didn't like my anymore. That's when I would get upset and sometimes I'd do rotten stuff. We even fought (physically) sometimes. I wonder if maybe this is what is going on with your sister. When you have other things you want to do and don't want her involved, she might feel like you don't like her or like she's being excluded and judged as bad, immature, or unpleasant. Which is sort of a self fufilling prophecy since she acts bratty when she is shut out, which of course makes you want to escape from her all the more.
Sometimes stuff like this is only going to change with time, as she gets older and wants her own space also. In the meanwhile, here are some suggestions about how to deal with this stage she's in without getting yourself in trouble.
I think, depending on your ages (both of you), you should try a couple of things.
1. Talk to your parents about how to keep her from coming in your room without asking/knocking and how to get her to leave when you ask her to. While your parents may need and/or want to come into your room sometimes even when you'd rather they not, they are your parents and sometimes they will need to do this. Your little sister on the other hand has no such similar need. Therefore, you and your parents should be able to work out some rules about how and when she is allowed to enter, who should enforce those rules, and how they should be enforced. Working this out BEFORE hand when everyone is calm is a better way to get your parents to understand this isn't just about bickering - it's about your sister learning how to respect people, their space, and their stuff. She needs to learn this or she will find out from other people who won't be as kind and understanding as her own family. You probably get in trouble when you do the behavior back to her because (a) your parents expect you not to act as immature as she does and (b) your parents are quite likely far past their last nerves with this behavior as well. Involve them in making the boundaries/rules and ask them how they would like you to act. This really can help alot if they have a clear head and time to listen.
2. If she is old enough to attempt to reason with (which I'm not at all sure about given how you've described her acting!), try talking to your sister some time when she is not being a terror and when you are not in the middle of a fight. Something like "Hey Alyssa, I want you to know it makes it hard for me to ever want to let you in my room because of how you act when I do. I might even want to hang out with you sometimes if you could act better, and if you could let me just have time to myself when I want it." Of course you kinda have to mean that (that you would hang out with her/do stuff with her if she could act better) for it to even remotely work. If every time she wants to hang around you you push her away, then she's not going to buy it. That's where suggestion 1 comes in I guess, but I would still try making it clear to her that you don't hate her, you just don't like how she acts sometimes.
I hope you guys can sort it out. Sisters can be great. Mine is my best friend now that we're adults - even though we don't live near each other, we talk almost every day.
2006-07-12 10:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by perseph1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you are not allowed to close the door but you are allowed to till your parents if the didinot do any thing to your sister.......hmmmmm? you try to be calm and till your parents
that your sister annoys you and remmber that when your sister
knows that some thing annoys you be shure that she will do it
so be calm and till your parents if the didnot do any thing so it is time to use your hands and make her know what the ment by
borders and red lines
2006-07-12 10:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy scream at her in till she gets scared and leaves and if that doesnt work cover her bedroom floor with honey and glue her door shut
2006-07-12 18:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the parent in your house that is most approachable, and tell them how you feel and ask for their assistance.
2006-07-12 10:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by donna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd kick the crap out of her, that's what I used to do to my sister.
2006-07-12 10:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her if she dont leave you alone i will get her in all sorts of trouble black mail......
2006-07-12 12:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by angel_64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start by trying to be a little nice to her, hug her, kiss her, and if that doesn't work, then, choke her little ***, im just playing
2006-07-12 10:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by davionmw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap her (not hard)...or yell at her that will scare her...it always works...u gotta teach her that you arn't playing.......
2006-07-12 10:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by wade5k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your parents about it
2006-07-23 09:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by U.wanna.battle.me?! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋