that I really like. I invited him to come to a friends party. He agreed. We met up and he decided that he didnt want to go because my ex was there. So we parted ways because I wanted to see friends that I hadnt seen in a long time. I apologized to him the next day and told him we should talk about it. He said maby sometime and I havent heard from him since. (I think that he thinks I blew him off for my ex!) I get the impression that he likes me too, but there has been a couple of times in the past where we didnt talk for a couple of weeks because of mixed emotions. Should I call him, wait it out or blow him off?? I have a lot more experience with relationships and he doesnt really have any. Is he that shy and hurt because I ditched him?? Please help!!
2006-07-12 09:59:54 · 22 answers · asked by Miss C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay...I hurt him....so should I call?
2006-07-12 10:02:34 · update #1
Well the first thing you should probably do is ask him. That will clear up a lot of your doubts within a few minutes. The more he shows he cares in that conversation, the more you can read on how he feels about you. If he blows it off, then do the same to him.
2006-07-12 10:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Cody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if his decision not to go to the party was specifically based on the fact that your ex was there, then I would say there is something different than mixed emotions going on here. he's too shy to tell you how he feels because he's worried that maybe you're just a feel good party girl who wants to be a butterfly and might even still have something going on with an ex or two in your back pocket. If you like him then you should take him in hand and make the first move, and then don't blow him off like that anymore.
2006-07-12 10:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me like He is a little overly sensitive to not want to be in attendance with your ex at a social gathering...is there a valid reason for this? Perhaps this is a preview of the kind of difficulties you might have if you were in a relatonship with this guy. I dont believe you ditched him just because he seemed a little too immature to handle a situation with your ex....what else can he not "handle"? you know what I mean? You sound pretty mature and sensitive to others needs, without ruining things for yourself...I say stick to your intuition, because I believe you are on the right track as far as you and those around you. (Actually, HE is the one who ditched YOU after your invite!) Looks like we have twin avatars!
2006-07-12 10:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by nexxxie2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not seeing where you blew him off...I'm seeing that he chose to change his mind about attending a party due to a guest that was there...you didn't say you had a date to go to the party together, but you'd invited him to attend so you weren't not in the wrong to attend anyway, just because he decided it wasn't his scene...
I would make one more attempt to talk to him, and see if you can smooth things over as maybe he did get his feelings hurt (justified or not). If he won't talk to you though, then let it go...but at least you'll know you tried...
2006-07-12 10:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...tough situation.. why should he be so worried that your ex was there? it didn't bother you, right? he is not feeling very sure of himself around you, perhaps he doesn't know how much you like him. if you have to, be a little more blatent and let him know and make him feel special/important, so that next time he won't have a reason to feel apprehensive of you being around Anyone, be it an ex, or a hot guy, etc. if you wanted to see some old friends, (and being with a new guy would show ur ex you don't need him!), if anything, you're not bugged by being same place your ex is, why is your new guy buggin. =T
2006-07-12 10:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just has self pride and doesn't want to be jerked around by some girl playing games. Sorry to sound so harsh but that's what you did isn't it? Sounds like a guy with a good head on his shoulders, I would suggest next time you come across a guy that has self-respect you recognize it and don't play games with him. Becuase any self-respecting guy is going to give you what they get in return.
Learn from this! Leave him alone, he's over you and you'll only do it again. If it where me, I wouldn't want to hear from you... You missed your chance.
Also, if he does get back in touch with you it's most likely going to be to sleep with you and never talk to you again. Believe me, I've been in this situation a ton of times in the past when girls play games with me. Again, you get what you give in relationships.
2006-07-12 10:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, i had a similar experience and yes, i kept hounding this guy with egreetings, emails, you name it, but he didn't respond-he has/got the impression that i am not interested in him-that's not really true...given there are some factors that i can't see past, i figured i'd like him as a friend-but i believe his ego has been bruised, and i just have to keep him at bay so that he doesn't grow on me, not the other way around....lol but in your case, yeah, guys will tell you about other women all the time but if you mention one, that's it, it's like hell breaking loose-i think you should contact him once, and then that's it...if he doesn't respond, well, se la vi... move on....coz that attitude will be the same attitude throughout the relationship-and he may just one fine day, walk away...
2006-07-12 10:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by ria k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK...forget it. He doesn't like you as much as you think. Move on find someone else or go back with your Ex...Next time make sure that your ex is completely OUT of the picture before you decide to talk to other guys. NEVER let another guy that your ex is still roaming you with your own consent or interest.
2006-07-12 10:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jr Thompson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to 'blow him off' in a different way and say you're sorry. Spend the night thinking about him instead of yourself, which seems like a foreign concept to you (why ask what to do when you know all he wants is attention from you?)
2006-07-12 10:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by Steve S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mayb u can talk 2 him if he doesn't want 2 talk then there is nothing u can do. Show him ur available for him wheneva he is ready. I think people have misunderstandings all the time especially with matters of the heart
2006-07-12 10:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by Rannet P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋