I have a two year old daughter who i have had to raise on my own, now her father is trying to be a father. He has hardly helped me out, and I sometimes feel he still holds resentment towards me for having her. He went on to school but I stayed at home so she could at least know one of her parents. My parents hate his guts, but I still have a lot of love for this guy. I am now going back to school and now he wants to be around. What should I do?
2006-07-12 09:54:38 · 10 answers · asked by kitty2gritty20002000 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You need to decide what would be best for the baby!! If you already have another man in your life...I wouldnt let her real dad be apart of her life...but if not, he needs to understand that she needs a FATHER..not a "Disneyland Dad" Personally I wouldnt give him the time of day...There should be no reason why a father puts you or his kids on the back burner...Its not worth it for him to be around and then all of a sudden he wants his freedom again.....Whos to say that when shes 5 and knows who he is....he doesnt take off again....Then explain to that little girl why her daddy isnt around...Ive been here....I know....You might still love him, but your first priority is that little girl.
2006-07-12 10:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have a heart to heart talk with him to see what his motives and expectations are. Is he paying child support? If not, that would be a good first step for him to show his love to his daughter. He may have felt resentment at first, but now maybe he's grown up a little and wants to be a father to her. She needs a good male role model. If you try to fight him, it may end up in court and get nasty and your daughter certainly does not need that. He is her father after all. I am praying for the best possible outcome for your daughter.
2006-07-12 10:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he paying child support? Get everything done through the courts. Perhaps even have it mandated that there be supervised visits initially. If you do not at least TRY to make it work, she might resent that later in life.....better to attempt to make it work from your end and then let the cards fall where they will---if he really is a schmuck, it will come out pretty quickly.
Good luck.
2006-07-12 09:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him. There are so many fathers out there who don't want to be a part of their children's lives. Allow your daughter to have a relationship with her dad. Statistics show that girls who have unhealthy, broken relationships with their fathers are more likely to be sexually active as teens and become young mothers themselves. You'd be giving your child an enormous gift to know the love of her father. As far as your parents go, you are an adult and the decision to let him be a part of your lives is your decision to make. Let them know that you respect their feelings but that you feel you are making the right decision for your daughter's benefit.
2006-07-12 10:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it legally..go get it wear he has to pay his child support or he can't see her. he will have to pay back child support also if he hasn't been paying...then have the court set up visitation rights...she will resent you in the long run if you keep her from him!
2006-07-12 13:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by hamc322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its his daughter too. If he wants to be apart of her life now I would let him, but I would straight up tell him that he's not just going to be in her life when he wants to and for how long he wants. I would tell him that once he becomes apart of her life he will stay apart of her life. And if he has any doubts about any of it then I would't let him.
2006-07-12 10:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by BabyBoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump to fast take it slow you have a little girl to think about. And if you go slow you will know if he's for real or just playing a game.
2006-07-12 10:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by mistyjlr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let him in slowly because you and your child has to get use to him beening there but it should be fine if you see the child getting close to him let but let the baby do it at its own pace
2006-07-12 09:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his daughter too. Is he going to help with support?
2006-07-12 09:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Stacy R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it a try.HOLLA!!
2006-07-12 10:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by courtney o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋