I have a two year old daughter who i have had to raise on my own, now her father is trying to be a father. He has hardly helped me out, and I sometimes feel he still holds resentment towards me for having her. He went on to school but I stayed at home so she could at least know one of her parents. My parents hate his guts, but I still have a lot of love for this guy. I am now going back to school and now he wants to be around. What should I do?
2006-07-12 09:54:19 · 6 answers · asked by kitty2gritty20002000 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i'd let him be a part in it...my dad was never really there and i wish he was and i think its important for daddys to be in their baby's lives
2006-07-12 10:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by Christy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is trully and 100% up to you, however, a child can get really messed up with the absense of a parent.
Your child should know her father, it will be good for her development.
It sounds like the guy is trying to come clean, but I'd say to talk to him about it and find out how serious he is about being there for her.
If you don't want him around all the time, then that's up to you, but he may take you to court to get visitation rights, and we probably want to avoid that. Give the guy a chance. For your daughter.
2006-07-12 13:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by darker_pegasus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ought to have a heart to heart talk with him to be sure what his motives and expectancies are. Is he paying baby help? If no longer, that must be a strong first step for him to exhibit his like to his daughter. He ought to have felt resentment in the starting up, yet now possibly he's grown up slightly and should be a father to her. She needs a strong male function sort. in case you're attempting to strive against him, it may finally end up in court docket and get nasty and your daughter truly does no longer want that. he's her father after all. i'm praying for the perfect achievable effect on your daughter.
2016-11-06 06:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wants to be back in your life, he needs to prove that he is responsible enough to help you with your daughter. You need someone responsible enough for your daughter. He ran the first time, don't think he won't do it again. You never know what could happen with situations like this. If he can prove he is worthy for you and your daughter, maybe he can prove it to your parents also.
2006-07-12 10:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell his sorry *** to take a hike,if he wasnt man enuf to be around for the first critical years of her life he isnt worth a ****,and he doesnt deserve to come back in her life now,thats my opnion but its your choice and yours alone
2006-07-12 14:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child has the right to know her father.
its a tough road, but you have done ok so far.
See what happens, he might suprise u.
2006-07-12 10:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋